If You’re Considering Divorce (5)
By Dr. Michael Brooks
For those of you who took the quiz, was it a wake-up call for you? Take the time and read what the results are. You may be surprised by the results. What is so important about each of the warning signs in the quiz? Here’s some explanation of each of the items in the quiz to help you figure out where you’re at in your relationship.
Before you consider divorcing, look at all possible ways in saving your relationship!
#1. Couples need to play together to stay together. Part of staying in love is to do things together emotionally and physically. Too much down time from each other is unhealthy and unwise. Spending time with each other promotes togetherness and communication. In my humble opinion, lack of communication today is one of the main reasons for divorces. If you have to find fulfillment from other sources and not from your spouse/partner you should look at this as a warning sign, danger ahead for your relationship. You need to find activities that include doing things together. If for example you like bowling and your spouse hates it and you insist that they do this with you, this will lead to the corrosion of your relationship. Find things that you did as a couple when you first started dating. Rekindle the romance with fun things. If you want to connect with your spouse, talk, communicate, listen to what they have to say, get involved with their life. Want to revive the connection with the one you love? Start doing things that bring laughter and joy to both of you.
When you can’t spend quality time together, this will lead to an unhealthy attitude towards your spouse. Some of the complaints that I get from a spouse who is falling out of love are: He spends too much time at the gym, is at work too long or brings their work home with them and I feel there is no time for me. To make a healthy connection, you need to see each other, hear each other, touch each other each and every day!
#2. What are your Priorities: When you drift apart you can drift towards things that are unhealthy in your relationship. Do you really want a relationship with your spouse? Are you more interested in being with your friends? Do you find excuses to leave and avoid being with that one you promised to love always? If you find yourself in finding ways to avoid being with your spouse and fill that void with friends and or events, then your priorities are really out of kilter. 3.
#3. You find Sexual interests elsewhere by flirting or thinking of someone else. When some couples grow apart, they start thinking about the opposite sex in unhealthy ways that could tear apart a marriage.The further you grow apart from your spouse, you may want to find someone else! General flirting is a warning sign of falling out of love with your spouse. Some people start looking at porn sites and at dating sites to fulfill the need finding an alternative spouse. This is a growing problem for many couples.
Do you suspect that you’re falling out of love with your spouse? Do you feel like your relationship is drifting apart? Has the lack of love in your relationship caused your spouse/partner to cheat on you by using Facebook or Classmates.com? Have you seen the signs of them spending time texting excessively or on the computer? Do you need help in confronting your spouse/partners suspicious behavior? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Don’t allow an old love to destroy your relationship. If your marriage has been threatened by or has ended because of a social media affair and you need someone to talk to, or need help in overcoming the pain you’re going through, please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. He can help you. He has helped several people through the process of a broken relationship caused by social media infidelity.
Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!