So you want to have an affair? By Dr. Michael Brooks
I wonder how many of you want to have an affair or have considered having one? What would this look like? How exciting would it be to have an affair? You may think, if nobody knows, who’s going to be hurt by it? Well, the truth of the matter is, many will be hurt, you, your spouse, children, family members and your close friends.
It may seem exciting and fun at first, but then you realize that you’re not someone who sneaks around, you’re not dishonest, and you hate the guilt associated with being a cheater. Can you imagine what your children would think if they found out that you were cheating on their mom or dad? The clients that I counsel that have been caught or found out are dealing with broken trust issue with their spouse and children. The cold shoulder, the long stares, and the broken hearts will be difficult for you to deal with from your kids. No lover should ever convince you that the kids will be OK through your affair. That’s a lie, and you should know that!
I watched a friend of mine whose wife had an affair on her husband; the kids withdrew from their mother, and they wanted nothing to do with her. It killed her that her children didn’t want to see her or be near her, but she kept right on with her affair. Since then she has been married several times and has no relationship with her children who are now adults. Is your affair worth it? I hope not. Usually, an affair is brief and takes everybody down with them and leaves no winners only victims. I have helped several people pick up the pieces after their spouse had an affair on them. I would hope those considering having an affair would see the broken hearts and the pain they would cause.
Having your affair may be exciting for a while, but most likely short lived and very painful for you while your marriage would end up in a divorce. I would say if you’re considering having an affair and need someone to talk to; I can help you through the process of protecting yourself from the pain of having an affair and destroying your marriage. How many of you have been hurt by your EX having an affair on you? Probably many of you! If you have any questions, please call or message me for additional information. If you need help, contact info below.
Many of you have expressed an interest in talking with me about how to save your marriage, make it affair proof or how to end it. Having gone through the pain myself, I’d be glad to help. I’m making my calendar available for you to schedule a free no obligation 30-minute appointment to see if divorce counseling can help you. So I can help walk you through the process, step-by-step, whatever option you choose. To set up an appointment, you can call me at 303.456.0555303.456.0555 or email me at mbrooks3353@gmail.com.
It won’t just go away by itself. Let me help you resolve one of the most painful times in your life, so you can start moving forward again. Make that your first step right now.