Living in Fear (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks
What monsters live under your bed at night? Meaning, what causes you great fear? Is it something in your past that has been hidden for years, or maybe a confrontation with someone that you have been dreading. There are many reasons we all deal with fears in our lives. Each one of us, at some point in time, has lived in fear of someone or something!
Fear can cause anxiety, depression, and failure
Growing up, one of my biggest fears as a child was moving. My dad, as many of you know, was a career military officer. We constantly moved, in the states, and Europe. You really never settled in one place; when my dad’s orders came, we moved. Making new friends was hard for any kid whose parents served in the military. I know for many of us military brats, most of us have a fear of moving. We rarely saw our cousins, grandparents, or aunts and uncles. That is just the way it was.
So, what fears are you facing today? Health issues, relationships problems, or unmet expectations! We can deal with our fears in healthy ways or unhealthy ways. I’d have to say dealing with our fears in a healthy way takes courage, planning, and maybe some counseling/coaching. If your fears control you, then you will most likely: avoid, run away, change the subject, make different plans, forget, and find any excuse not to face your fears!
Growing up, I hated, and I mean that in every way, meeting new people or being at family gatherings or family reunions. I was such a shy kid growing up. We moved all the time as a military family, you had, new schools, new friends, and that compounded my shyness. As a kid, the fears we had could most likely be talked away by our parents or older siblings. Not so much as an adult, our fears control us in many unusual ways. When I counsel people, the most common fears and worries I hear about are: Jobs, finances, children, in-laws, their future, and many more. I think for the most part, kids live in a world that’s pretty predictable, friends, electronics, food, etc. Kids will fear and worry about: parents who may be divorcing, a family member or pet that’s ill, losing friends, etc. So, next week, I want to slowly look into how to face your fears.
In next week’s article, I’ll have some suggestions on how I dealt with my own fears and how I moved on to live a life without the fears that were holding me back. I’ll provide some valuable tips that you can use in dealing with your fears!
Do you feel frustrated with the fears that hold you down and prevent you from living? Do you want help in dealing with your fears and moving on with your life? Do you need to identify your fears and how to manage them? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need to talk.
Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!
Dr. Mike will be having Zoom classes on; How to Set Boundaries for yourself, your kids, and dating relationships. There will be a class on the 5-Love Languages, how to have better relationships with your spouse, family and friends. Then lastly, Dr. Mike will be having a class on the Colorcode, why we do the things we do, how to deal with the negative people in your life. If you are interested in any of these classes or have questions, send an email to mbrooks3353@gmail.com or call 303.880.9878.