The Fastest Way to End Your Marriage (3) By Dr Michael Brooks
Today’s article addresses some of the issues and why marriages break down, if you want to save your failing marriage, start learning the warning signs.
Start paying attention to your spouse, boy this one is one of those irritating mostly for women, it seems like guys just don’t get it. A husband comes home from work, ignores the kids, and walks over to the TV and turns it on and starts watching TV. He pays no attention to his wife or kids. So, her thoughts are, honey, why not just say hi and ask how my day was! Even a simple acknowledgement of his wife would help the evening go better. When spouses feel neglected there is a potential problem in the making, and that is loneliness.
Loneliness can be a big stressor in marriage
Many spouses will stray if they continue to feel this way, they feel alone and left out. Many times, children often defuse this problem but not forever. Once the kids are at school or out of the house for college or living on their own, problems will begin to happen. When you come home from work or errands, let your wife/husband know your home and say Hi, I’m home, how was your day, what can I do to help around the home? Or you can call from work and ask if they need anything from the grocery store, then pick up a small token of your love, flowers, a card, or even a favorite treat they enjoy. Stay connected with your partner and let them know how much you love them and want them in your life. This goes a long way to feeling important and connected.
The lack of spontaneity hurts a lot of marriages. Many marriages get dull or boring after a while. When you dated your spouse, you probably did a lot of fun dates without any plans, just a spur of the moment, knee jerk, fun things to do. Men are pretty creative in this part of the relationship. I bet many of you women, have some fond memories of a surprise date experience and still to this day look back with a smile on your face. Plan some fun things to do, plan ahead and make sure you both have a great time. I had a client who surprised his wife with a boat ride on a mountain lake, he had wine, cheese, flowers and music playing as they sat and reminisced about the many good years they had together. This was a healing moment for the wife as she spoke of the fun things they did together in the past. He made it a reality for her. Next week we will be covering the areas that cause divorces in an unhealthy relationship.
Do you feel frustrated about your failing marriage or relationship and need help in getting back on track? Do you need help in saving your marriage and family from divorce? Do you have a spouse who isn’t communicating with you and you want to communicate at a deeper level? Do you want help in learning how to bring excitement in your marriage? Are you wanting to end your relationship because it’s unhealthy or not improving? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need to talk.
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