When Your Anger Controls You! (5) By Dr. Michael Brooks
Have you ever given much thought to the reasons why you get angry? We all get upset at times when someone irritates us, or we don’t get our way for some reason or another. What is the core of our anger? Why do we let our anger get the best of us? I hope that we have uncovered ways that you can release the anger that builds inside you, and you have tools to deal with it.
Getting angry can cost you in many ways!
What causes you to get angry? Think about the people who have made you angry in the past? What did they do, or didn’t do that got you upset? Was it words or actions that set you off? We all have to deal with anger; it’s just how we deal with it that people see. For example, I know many people hate waiting in line. Yesterday, I was waiting in line at the bank drive-up window. There were two cars ahead of me as I was in a hurry for a meeting. The bank teller was taking her time serving the bank customers in front of me. Honestly, the two cars ahead of me took 10 minutes to help. I was in a hurry, what could I have done differently and not get impatient or angry? Pretty easy solution, just come back after my errands or pick another time of the day. So, instead of focusing on what makes you angry, try to fix the problem, anger will not resolve the issue, it’ll only make it worse.
Once you have dealt with your anger, now what? It’s time to let go of your anger and get on with life. If you know of the source that caused you to get angry, forgive, and put it behind you. There is no reason to dwell on the people that cause you to get angry. Yes, it will take time to let it go, but life will be much better for you if you are not holding a grudge.
Know when you need to get help; If anger is eating you up, you just can’t let it go, then get help. Anger can consume and destroy you, your family, friends, and co-workers. I have seen it happen to many people that I know and counsel. If your anger causes you to do things you regret or hurt those around you, then you need to talk to someone who can help you.
In closing, remember angry people are not very approachable, seldom have friends who can tolerate them, and will make your life a living hell if you allow them to. My thought is this, if they make your life uncomfortable, either you distant yourself from them or end, end the relationship. If you want peace and tranquility, then take that step that will make it happen.
Do you get upset if someone cuts in front of you in heavy traffic? Do you get angry when someone interrupts you during a conversation? Do you feel the need to defend yourself if you don’t agree with someone’s opinion? Getting upset and angry is normal and can be a healthy emotion, but uncontrolled anger can destroy families and relationships. If you answered any of these questions with a yes, then maybe you should talk with Dr. Mike, he can help you deal with your anger or anger from another person.
Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous, and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!
Dr. Mike will be having Zoom classes on; How to Set Boundaries for yourself, your kids, and marriage. There will be a class on the 5-Love Languages, how to have better relationships with your spouse, family and friends. Then lastly, Dr. Mike will be having a class on the Colorcode, why we do the things we do, how to deal with the negative people in your life. If you are interested in any of these classes or have questions, send an email to mbrooks3353@gmail.com or call 303.880.9878.