Are You Serious, You Want a Divorce? (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks
We are continuing our article on “Are You Serious, You Want a Divorce?” Learn how to avoid the pitfalls of divorce and possibly save your marriage. There are several tips that can help you along the way of deciding what your next steps should be.
If you’re the spouse who wants to leave the marriage, have you sought counseling/coaching on your next steps. Have you looked at every way to save your relationship? Or are you just bailing out on your marriage because you’ve been told life is better on this side of divorce. Many people that I have worked with will tell you once you file for divorce, life is miserable, painful, and hard to get motivated. Many have regretted in divorcing and not working on their marriage. I understand that there are reasons for a legit divorce, you will not get any arguments from me. In the case of adultery, physical and emotional abuse, drug and alcohol abuse, pornography, and abandonment, I get it.
If you’re not happy and feel like your marriage just doesn’t have any excitement and it’s boring, not fun and you’re leaving it for those reasons, life will be miserable for you and most likely you will go from marriage to marriage always looking for something better.
Find a counselor who can help you walk through your problems and hopefully find resolutions.
Step two, the purpose of getting counseling is to help you figure out what your next steps are. Find a counselor who can help you walk through your problems and hopefully find resolutions for you. Listen well to what is being said, open your heart and dig deep to find a way to work together in finding a compromise. I like to think that a coach/counselor is not a judge, but someone who has both of your interests at heart and will work for both of you in getting answers and planning your next steps to move forward in your relationship. I will tell you, this will be hard work but well worth it in the end.
Now, let’s just say that you’ve talked to your clergy, counselor/coach and you can’t find any way that staying together is possible. You have given it your all, you’ve exhausted all your resources of time, and energy. Then it’s time to move on. If you’re the one trying to save your marriage and your spouse will not get counseling or any help for that matter, get help for yourself. Get the healing that you need for you and your kids if necessary. Move on with your life and start planning your future.
In next weeks article we will continue to examine why people want a divorce.
Do you feel frustrated about your failing marriage or relationship? Do you need help in saving your marriage and family from divorce? Do you have a spouse or partner who isn’t communicating with you and you want it restored? Do you want help in learning good communication skills? Are you the partner who wants to end your relationship because it’s unhealthy? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878 if you need help.
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