Are You Serious, You Want a Divorce? (4) By Dr. Michael Brooks
We are continuing our article on “Are You Serious, You Want a Divorce?” Learn how to avoid the pitfalls of divorce and possibly save your marriage. There are several tips that can help you along the way of deciding what your next steps should be.
I am reminded of a friend whose husband was married to his business and the corporate world. He rarely was ever home, when he was home he’d bring home his work and have his heard buried for hours in spreadsheets and his laptop. They had three children in sports programs that required running them around on weekends. She was doing it all and she asked if he could help her get the kids to their games.
What do you do after a spouse asks for divorce?
He looked at her and said are you kidding me? I’ve got to turn these reports in on Monday. He never helped around the home, and she kept asking for his input with the kids at school and their school projects, etc. She had enough, she talked to a counselor and he suggested that they get marriage counseling. She told him about meeting with the counselor and he went ballistic and said that he didn’t need counseling, that she did. He filed for divorce the next day. She went to counseling faithfully for six months while they were in the process of divorce. She got the professional help she needed and was prepared for the end of her marriage.
…those wayward spouses who have no desire whatsoever to stay in a marriage…
There are those wayward spouses who have no desire whatsoever to stay in a marriage relationship with you, no matter what you’ve done or haven’t done. They have their minds set upon leaving you despite how forgiving you are for their failures. Remember most typically it’s all about them (me, myself and I) and not about you. It’s best to let them go and not fight for them to stay, if you do life will be nothing but headaches and regrets. If you have children, life will be very hard on them if they see you struggling day after day. Protect them from future disappointments with your spouse.
This is where a counselor/coach can help you with your next steps. Instead of guessing at “what am I going to do with my life,” sit down and plan out what your goals are. You’ll need to plan for you and the kids future, possibly finding a job, a new place to live, do you need to go to school and get a degree? There is so much that you’ll have to plan for. You now have to create a life for you and the kids, make the best of it.
In next weeks article we will continue to examine why people want a divorce.
Do you feel frustrated about your failing marriage or relationship? Do you need help in saving your marriage and family from divorce? Do you have a spouse or partner who isn’t communicating with you and you want it restored? Do you want help in learning good communication skills? Are you the partner who wants to end your relationship because it’s unhealthy? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878 if you need help.
Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!