Facing Your Giants (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks
This week we will continue facing your giants, look at what causes some of the giants you face. So my question for you today: what are the Giants that you’re facing and want help and confront today? You may have one or several Giants that control you.
There is the fear of divorce, and separation. Less than half the marriages in the US will not survive and end up in divorce. Moving on with your life when considering a divorce can be devastating. I suggest that you sit down and look at your next steps in getting your life back from a bad marriage. I can tell you that it’s a difficult time during the process, but you will survive. You can contact Dr. Mike if you need help in figuring out what your next steps are.
Anxiety is normal and can be a healthy emotion. But when a person on a regular basis feels different levels of anxiety, this may be a medical disorder and needs to be addressed. Anxiety disorders need a mental health diagnoses, concerns that often lead to excessive nervousness, fear, apprehension, and worry. We all experience a degree of anxiety, when asking your boss for a raise, or asking your significant other to marry you, I believe those are healthy levels of anxiety. So, what are the ways I can deal with my symptoms of anxiety? Ask yourself why am I so anxious? Look at what is causing the feeling of being anxious. Take a deep breath and try to relax, start your positive self-talk to yourself, think about positive locations where you feel safe, beaches, forests, lakes, and why you feel safe there. My big question to ask yourself, are you in control of your brain or is your brain in control of you?
I can remember when taking a big Physiology of exercise exam in college, how anxious I was. I studied for days and nights, this exam was the big test to get you into the next level of your degree program. I was not sleeping, I joined study groups, I had Q-cards I used when eating meals, and at work. I was working myself into “I will not pass this test,” no matter how hard I worked at passing this major exam.” The finally arrived and a million thoughts raced through my head, as I sat at my desk and waited for the test to be placed in my hands a still small voice started talking to me. You’ve got this, you have worked so hard and spent countless hours preparing for this very exam. I agreed with what my mind was telling me. A calmness took over and I looked at the test, and started taking it. Midway through this exam, my self-talk reminded me, “see you’re worrying over nothing, no reason to get anxious.” I talked myself into using facts about how much time I put into studying and all the hard work I did. Believe me that helped. I looked at the facts, my efforts in reading, analyzing data. I overcame my anxiety. That was one of my biggest giants! . Next week we will continue the article facing your giants, see if any of the giants you face are ones others face as well.
Do you need help in overcoming the giants of your past? Do you struggle with memories of broken relationships, illness, self-worth, confidence? What are the giants that you currently face and need help in defeating them? Giants can be debilitating and keep you from enjoying life and successful life. Call Dr. Mike and he can help you through the process of taking your giants head on and help you to move forward with your life. Why live in a defeated and hurtful past, when you can enjoy a stress-free present and future?
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