Show me That You Love Me! (3) By Dr Michael Brooks
This week, I want to go over spending quality time together and how important that is to your spouse. Marriages are also built on doing things together which helps create a positive and healthy marriage.
How important do you think spending quality time together is? Do you like hanging out with your spouse on the weekends, do you enjoy walks and talking together? Quality time is the time you spend together, just the two of you. I like to suggest this time is where you’re not watching TV or reading a book. It’s time where you can talk and listen to each other. That’s where you connect on a deeper level with each other. It can be going on a long drive in the country or an art museum, a ball game, as long as you are talking with each other and having a good time.
I have a friend who loves to ATV, and his wife loves it too. They enjoy riding trails together, exploring new places to ride. She makes a great lunch, and they take a break and have lunch together. Sometimes they fish, go on hikes, work on their house together. It’s a strong and healthy marriage. Why? Because they are together enjoying the time they have as a couple I had one couple I was working with the wife would be glued to the TV when he got home from work, that’s where she was planted all evening. He wanted to spend time with her talking and she was wanting uninterrupted time in front of the TV.
This marriage was in trouble from the get-go. So, what is Quality time to you? Is it just being in the same room and not talking to each other? Is it something you desire and don’t have with your spouse? Are you desiring time with your spouse and want their attention? A good test for you to see who is getting quality time, is go out to a restaurant and watch couples sitting at a table, I do this all the time and watch them interact. I can Guess who is dating and guess who is married, and how I can you tell them apart? Most likely the married couples will be looking at their phones and texting, and the dating couple will be looking at each other and talking! Do me a favor, make a list of things you’d like to do with your spouse, have them make a list as well. Here are some of my tips for having quality time together:
- Take some time to walk at your local park, talk with each other, go arm in arm. Share your thoughts but talk and spend some time enjoying each other’s company.
- Take her on a surprise weekend get-away, call and make reservations at a hotel, plan dinner at a nice restaurant, but get away from home.
- Plan a day on the road, take a road trip to their favorite place, bring a picnic lunch, create some great memories.
- Meet your spouse for lunch during the week, a place where you both can meet near your work.
This quality time is all about your spouse, give them your undivided attention, show them that they are number one in your life!
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