When You Can’t Forgive Yourself (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks
I have heard many stories where some people just can’t forgive themselves for either something they have done, or what someone did to them. It’s sad that we live in a world where so much hurt persists. It’s even sadder when we continue to beat ourselves up for something we should have let go and moved on with our lives years ago. Why some people hold on to self-unforgiveness, which continues to hold them down and prevents them from living a life with a clear conscious is beyond me. The freeing effect to function in everyday life is yours just for the taking. That next step is up to you if you allow yourself to let go what is holding you back.
While you carry this unwarranted and undeserving guilt, do you realize the effects this has on your family and friends? The people you love want you to have the freedom of moving on with your life and enjoying being a part of a healthy family. This problem is common, and the symptoms are so clear to the loved ones who live with this person. Keep in mind that the people who can’t forgive themselves live in a cold and closed world. They can’t enjoy family functions nor can they allow themselves to laugh and enjoy life.
So, what does a family or friends see when this person is critical of themselves? The negativity in these people is classic and disheartening. This individual is constantly critical with interactions with family members and friends. They often prefer to be by themselves. They snap back at loved ones and avoid interactions with acquaintances. They often hide and avoid meaningful conversations with others while beating themselves up. They can be very difficult to live with and make you feel depressed after hearing their negativity. They keep mentioning over and over again they don’t know why there still alive. My question for these people do you want your family and friends to suffer right along with you?
Let’s face it, if you want to be miserable the rest of your life, the ones that love you will feel the pain you inflict on them by your outlook on life. Many will suffer because of your actions, right along side you. Think about that for a moment. Do you care about those who love you and do you want to draw them into your being miserable? Honestly, I don’t think so.
Are there things you just can’t let go of, and it’s killing you inside? Do you need help in taking the right steps and learning how to forgive yourself from something in your past? Have you been hurt by someone and need to move on with your life. Do you need freedom from past hurts and to let go? If you answered yes to any of these questions, give Dr. Mike a call he can help you through the process of finding the freedom that you need. Call him at 303.880.9878
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