Divorce By Social Media (Facebook, Classmates) By Dr. Michael Brooks

A recent client of mine told me about how his wife had reconnected with an old boyfriend from high school through Facebook. They hadn’t seen each other in 38 years and considered each other their “first love.” As we all know, a “first love” is a strong bond to break especially when there was physical intimacy involved.

He told me that her old boyfriend found her on Facebook and sent her a contact note. She responded back by telling him she was married and had four children. He wanted to hear more about her life and what she had been doing all those 38 years. Unbeknownst to her, he had been divorced twice and was thinking about her. Eventually, her marriage seemed unfulfilling to her too and unfortunately, she shared that with her ex-boyfriend. He was an engineer and had been divorced for three years. He wanted to reconnect with her, and she thought it would be nice to see him too. So she traveled to Ohio to meet him and never told her husband where she was going. She just packed her bags for a “weekend getaway”.

When she returned, she told her husband of 30+ years that she was divorcing him. She wanted out and had talked to a lawyer about putting the divorce together. She said their grown children that she was divorcing their father and told all kinds of lies about him. She also told the children that he was unfaithful and abusive towards her. The lies got even worse the more time she spent with her old flame talking on the phone and chatting on Facebook. With her lies, she turned her children and family against him.

The lies were so destructive and painful he nearly had a nervous breakdown. He begged, pleaded, groveled, wept and cried to get her back. She destroyed this man’s life because of an affair she wanted and tried to justify it with her lies. This woman was very deceitful and filled with hate.

When I met with this man at my office, he was beside himself. He had nowhere to turn, and his children wanted nothing to do with him. His wife hated him and was bent on taking him down. He asked me, “Dr. Mike, where do I go from here? I have done nothing that she has accused me of. I have been faithful to her and loved her, but she always seemed unhappy. I’ve tried talking with her, planning vacations, etc., but it just never worked out. I even asked her to go to marriage counseling, which she refused. I know I wasn’t a perfect husband, but I tried everything possible to make her happy. “

He told me that he found out who the guy was, what kind of job he had and the type of people he was involved with. He also knew how many times he was divorced and even current relationships the man was involved in. He had all the emails they sent each other with the time and date stamps on them. He wanted to know why another man would take his wife away, knowing full-well she was still married. That was a fair question. Relationships can be so complex! They are hard to understand at times. “Who should get the blame,” he asked? I told him, “They both should. He shares in the equal responsibility. The reason you feel it’s more your wife’s fault is that she is the focal point of your pain.”

If you suspect that your spouse/partner is reconnecting with a former girlfriend, boyfriend, lover, etc., you need to confront them immediately. The longer you delay, the more damage there will be, and the possibility of your marriage will come to an end is likely. Confronting your spouse is not a bad thing – doing absolutely nothing is. You need a game plan when you talk to your spouse/partner. If you accuse them without knowing what you’re going to say, you’re headed for trouble so plan on that! More and more relationships have ended from social websites than ever before. If you are tempted to look up an old boyfriend or girlfriend, don’t. There is no reason to risk hurting your relationship with your spouse/partner by looking for past loves. Protect that relationship you’re in, guard it and enjoy it! Trying to rekindle a relationship with an old flame never works, especially if you’re in a committed relationship.

Do you suspect that your spouse has been cheating on you by using Facebook or Classmates.com? Have you seen the signs of them spending time texting excessively or on the computer? Do you need help in confronting your spouse/partners suspicious behavior? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Don’t allow an old love to destroy your relationship.

If your marriage has been threatened by or has ended because of a social media affair and you need someone to talk to, or need help in overcoming the pain you’re going through, please call Dr. Mike. He can help you. He has helped several people through the process of a broken relationship caused by social media infidelity.
Master Life Coaching, Divorce Coaching, and counseling is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. Avoid travel time and never leave the comfort of your home to meet with me. I have many out-of-state clients who prefer to meet over the phone 303.456.0555 or via Skype (drmike45). The convenience of this type of coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live out of the Denver-metro area or are out of the state of Colorado.

There is always hope is you're willing to try to save your marriage!

There is always hope is you’re willing to try to save your marriage!

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So You To Have An Affair? By Dr. Michael Brooks

So you want to have an affair? By Dr. Michael Brooks

I wonder how many of you want to have an affair or have considered having one? What would this look like? How exciting would it be to have an affair? You may think, if nobody knows, who’s going to be hurt by it? Well, the truth of the matter is, many will be hurt, you, your spouse, children, family members and your close friends.

It may seem exciting and fun at first, but then you realize that you’re not someone who sneaks around, you’re not dishonest, and you hate the guilt associated with being a cheater. Can you imagine what your children would think if they found out that you were cheating on their mom or dad? The clients that I counsel that have been caught or found out are dealing with broken trust issue with their spouse and children. The cold shoulder, the long stares, and the broken hearts will be difficult for you to deal with from your kids. No lover should ever convince you that the kids will be OK through your affair. That’s a lie, and you should know that!

I watched a friend of mine whose wife had an affair on her husband; the kids withdrew from their mother, and they wanted nothing to do with her. It killed her that her children didn’t want to see her or be near her, but she kept right on with her affair. Since then she has been married several times and has no relationship with her children who are now adults. Is your affair worth it? I hope not. Usually, an affair is brief and takes everybody down with them and leaves no winners only victims. I have helped several people pick up the pieces after their spouse had an affair on them. I would hope those considering having an affair would see the broken hearts and the pain they would cause.

Having your affair may be exciting for a while, but most likely short lived and very painful for you while your marriage would end up in a divorce. I would say if you’re considering having an affair and need someone to talk to; I can help you through the process of protecting yourself from the pain of having an affair and destroying your marriage. How many of you have been hurt by your EX having an affair on you? Probably many of you! If you have any questions, please call or message me for additional information. If you need help, contact info below.

Many of you have expressed an interest in talking with me about how to save your marriage, make it affair proof or how to end it. Having gone through the pain myself, I’d be glad to help. I’m making my calendar available for you to schedule a free no obligation 30-minute appointment to see if divorce counseling can help you. So I can help walk you through the process, step-by-step, whatever option you choose. To set up an appointment, you can call me at 303.456.0555303.456.0555 or email me at mbrooks3353@gmail.com.

It won’t just go away by itself. Let me help you resolve one of the most painful times in your life, so you can start moving forward again. Make that your first step right now.

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How Important Is Your Integrity? (5) By Dr. Michael Brooks

How Important is Your Integrity? (5) By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week we will continue on with our Integrity series and todays series we will be talking about breaking off a relationship that is going nowhere. On the other hand, if your relationship is over have enough integrity to end it. Don’t drag it out because you’re uncomfortable of being the bad person and ending the relationship. Many times someone will stop calling or avoiding talking to the other person and leave them hanging on and giving them a little hope that the relationship still has a chance. Yes, it’s uncomfortable to end a relationship, yes it hurts to tell someone that you’re moving on with your life. The sooner you tell them you feel the relationship is over the better you will feel. A person with integrity can be honest at where the relationship is headed and end it quickly.

• Be open and honest about a relationship that’s over
• Don’t hide and avoid your feelings about a relationship that you would like to end
• The longer you avoid ending a relationship the more pain you will cause the other person
• Don’t tell your friends you want to break up before you tell the person you’re involved with

“How important is your integrity.” If you have questions concerning the status of your integrity and want to know more on how to restore your integrity call Dr. Mike at 303.456.0555 Do you need help with being a person of integrity? Do you have a hard time keeping your word to family members? Is integrity an issue with you at home or in the workplace? If you answered yes to any of these questions, please give Dr. Mike a call today at 303.456.0555.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and Life Coaching Services. His services are affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your own home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone 303.456.0555 or via Skype at drmike45. You can also connect with Dr. Mike on Facebook with sending him a Facebook request at Michael Brooks and get his daily motivational tips and insights. If you’re interested skyping with Dr. Mike send him an e-mail and let him know who you are and your skype name. The convenience of this type of coaching is the most effective means of Life counseling and life coaching. We come to you when you need us most.

Ya Cheat, Expect To Get Caught!

Ya Cheat, Expect To Get Caught!

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How Important Is Your Integrity ? (4) Dr. Michael Brooks

How Important is Your Integrity? (4)
By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week we will continue on with our Integrity series and todays series we will be talking about being honest in a serious relationship. For those of you who are in a serious relationship, here is a word of caution. I know you always want to keep your best foot forward, to look and show that you have your act together. We all want that and to have a wonderful relationship as we fall in love with that right person. Love is a wonderful thing and most of the time we want to look past peoples faults and believe all that they tell us. Am I wrong here? I don’t think so. When you’re in a serious relationship don’t keep secrets from each other. It’s best to be honest from the get go. There are times when it’s appropriate to share things is a timely manner. As you get to know each other and that’s the fun part of growing a healthy relationship, building trust by sharing your dreams, visions and goals. Being open about your past relationships, where you have trust issues and your communication style.

I had a friend who was not divorced but separated from his wife for one month. He instantly went to several dating sites and signed up. He went on several dates and got involved with one women who adored him. He told her that he was single and dated her for several months. She fell in love with him and he proposed to her while still married. He never told her he was still legally married. I asked him did he tell her and he told me he did.

In fact, he told several of us he was engaged to this woman, she had a 7-year-old daughter that also felt like this man was like a daddy to her. When we were all sitting around the table someone mentioned to this guy where was he at in the process of his divorce? She looked up and said in a loud voice “what divorce, I thought you said you were divorced!”

You could have heard a pin drop, he looked at me then her and stared at me for the longest time while she was saying,” Are you divorced or not?” He stammered several times and avoided her question. The room cleared out and it was the three of us sitting there. She looked at him not taking her eyes off him at all. She wanted an answer immediately. Finally, he admitted that he was still married but going through a divorce. She got up and left immediately left. First of all, he should have been up front with her and she could have decided to continue on with the relationship.

I suggest that you’re honest and open about your past. Don’t keep secrets from each other. Honesty grows a relationship, deceit kills it.

• Be up front with your past, don’t hide it, if you do it will catch up with you
• Hiding things will cause you to have a deceitful heart
• Secrets will destroy your relationship and cause trust issues
• Keeping secrets will cause you to lie
• To keep a relationship healthy be an open book and be truthful when asked questions
• Be known as a man or woman of integrity
• You are in integrity when the life you are living on the outside matches who you are on the inside.

Next week we will continue “How important is your integrity.” If you have questions concerning the status of your integrity and want to know more on how to restore your integrity call Dr. Mike at 303.456.0555
Do you need help with being a person of integrity? Do you have a hard time keeping your word to family members? Is integrity an issue with you at home or in the workplace? If you answered yes to any of these questions, please give Dr. Mike a call today at 303.456.0555.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and Life Coaching Services. His services are affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your own home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone 303.456.0555 or via Skype at drmike45. If you’re interested skyping with Dr. Mike send him an e-mail and let him know who you are and your skype name. You can also connect with Dr. Mike on Facebook with sending him a Facebook request at Michael Brooks and get his daily motivational tips and insights. The convenience of this type of coaching is the most effective means of Life counseling and life coaching. We come to you when you need us most.

Take Back Your Life Now!

Take Back Your Life Now!

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How Important Is Your Integrity? (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

How Important is Your Integrity? (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week we will continue on with our Integrity series and todays series we will be talking about loyalty in your marriage. I have another saying for husbands, wives and partners and I believe it’s appropriate for today’s couples. “When the grass looks greener on the other side, it is God telling you to water the grass that you’re standing on.” You need to be committed to your own spouse and not someone else’s. In these day’s social media has a big impact on today’s divorces.

It’s easy to find old boyfriends and girlfriends and never give it a second thought as you begin to get reacquainted with them, that you’re married. A person with integrity will not pursue an old flame. There is no reason too. Remain loyal to your spouse or partner. With the ease of no-fault divorces these days many are rushing to get a quick divorce. The hurt that they can do to their spouses and children because they are filing for a divorce without thinking of the consequences to themselves. So what I am suggesting is be loyal to your spouse, no matter how tempted you are.

• Loyalty to your spouse/partner keeps you out of trouble
• Good communication helps grow trusting relationships
• Be loyal to your spouse/partner in front of your relatives, children, and friends
• Being loyal means protecting and defending those you love
• Let your spouse/partner know your loyal to them, they need to hear it
• Loyalty to your spouse/partner is key in building a healthy relationship
• One of the truest tests of integrity is its blunt refusal to be compromised

Next week we will continue “How important is your integrity.” If you have questions concerning the status of your integrity and want to know more on how to restore your integrity call Dr. Mike at 303.456.0555

Do you need help with being a person of integrity? Do you have a hard time keeping your word to family members? Is integrity an issue with you at home or in the workplace? If you answered yes to any of these questions, please give Dr. Mike a call today at 303.456.0555.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and Life Coaching Services. His services are affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your own home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone 303.456.0555 or via Skype at drmike45. If you’re interested skyping with Dr. Mike send him an e-mail and let him know who you are and your skype name. You can also connect with Dr. Mike on Facebook with sending him a Facebook request at Michael Brooks and get his daily motivational tips and insights. The convenience of this type of coaching is the most effective means of Life counseling and life coaching. We come to you when you need us most.

Don't Be Talked Into A Divorce

Don’t Be Talked Into A Divorce

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How Important is Your Integrity? (2) By Dr. Michael Brooks

How Important is Your Integrity? (2)
By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week we will continue on with our Integrity series and todays series we will be talking about breaking confidences with the people you know. I know for some people it’s tempting to betray someone’s confidence when they get into trouble. What do you mean you may ask? Well, let’s look at someone who might know of an inside secret about a job posting. You’re supposed to keep it confidential yet you tell your good friend about the posting and the word gets out about the posting through your friend although it’s supposed to be confidential. Yet when your friend is asked who told them about the job posting? Either the friend says nothing or exposes you to keep out of trouble. That’s what I am talking about keeping confidences.

Have you been tempted to talk about someone behind their back? I think we all can say “guilty as charged.” This is one of the worst offenses people don’t tolerate very well. I have a saying that I like to use “remember the rumors you hear about me are as true as the ones I hear about you.” Stop gossip in its tracks. This is a vital part of integrity that people admire and want to have in their lives. What is the point of talking about people behind their backs? Does it benefit you by slandering someone? Does it make you appear the better person when talking or gossiping about someone? I hope not.

Many friendships have been ruined by a gossip as many family relationships. If you have to talk about someone, do it in front of them. That would be the best way to deal with it. Most people would never gossip in front of their victims. Wonder why? The gossiper would get an ear full. Just don’t gossip and avoid the hassle that goes with it. If you don’t have anything to say in a positive manner, don’t say anything. It’s that simple folks. Be in control of your tongue at all times. Integrity in how you talk about others is key to being a trusted friend.

• Don’t be known as a gossip in your sphere of influence
• Stop gossip in its tracks, don’t repeat what people say and confront them if their sharing information about anyone
• Remember whatever is whispered in secret will be shouted from the rooftops
• Encourage wholesome and uplifting conversation with your children and those you know
• Gossip destroys family, friendships and marriage relationships
• Learn to walk away from a gossip at all times
• Gossip is unhealthy to the soul
• Perhaps the surest test of an individual’s integrity is his refusal to do or say anything that would damage his self-respect.

Next week we will continue “How important is your integrity.” If you have questions concerning the status of your integrity and want to know more on how to restore your integrity call Dr. Mike at 303.456.0555
Do you need help with being a person of integrity? Do you have a hard time keeping your word to family members? Is integrity an issue with you at home or in the workplace? If you answered yes to any of these questions, please give Dr. Mike a call today at 303.456.0555.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and Life Coaching Services. His services are affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your own home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone 303.456.0555 or via Skype at drmike45. If you’re interested skyping with Dr. Mike send him an e-mail and let him know who you are and your skype name. You can also connect with Dr. Mike on Facebook with sending him a Facebook request at Michael Brooks and get his daily motivational tips and insights. The convenience of this type of coaching is the most effective means of Life counseling and life coaching. We come to you when you need us most.

It's OK to ask for help, that's what I'm here for!

It’s OK to ask for help, that’s what I’m here for!

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How Important is Your Integrity (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks

How Important is Your Integrity? (1)
By Dr. Michael Brooks

I have a friend who makes promises that are not kept very often. I remember asking this person for a ride to an appointment. My car was in the shop and I called and explained that I needed help in getting to this appointment. Keep in mind that this is the first time I’ve asked this person for a favor. I had to leave at 8:00 AM to make an 8:30 appointment. I waited until 8:15 to call and see if they were on their way to get me, I got no answer from this person. I called at 8:20 still no answer. I called another friend down the road to see if he could get me to my appointment. He came right over and got me to my meeting albeit 20 minutes late. I called my friend later that afternoon and talked to him and asked why he didn’t show up. His excuse was that he had other commitments he forgot about and didn’t have time to call me. That my friends is what I call the lack of integrity. Would I call this person ever again? Not at all. If you tell someone you’re going to do something for them, DO IT. Keep your word. Don’t make promises that you don’t intend to keep.

My question to you, and believe me, I include myself in this question. Who are we when nobody is looking? Are we true to ourselves and others with our words and actions? That’s the kind of integrity I am talking about. We have to live within our own core values and be examples for others when we walk with integrity. My thought is this: Are your words dependable, can people count on you to follow through with what you tell them? Can you be trusted in your words and deeds? Let’s face it most of us have been let down by family member or friends. Yes, even some of our bosses have let us down. In a world of broken promises keep in mind that you’ll do your part to keep your integrity intact.

I can remember when I was 12 years old buying something at a sporting goods store. I paid at the checkout and gave the clerk my money and she handed me back my change. I didn’t even look at the amount she gave me. When I got home and looked at my money, she gave a $20.00 instead of a one-dollar bill. I looked at the $20-dollar bill in disbelief. I knew I couldn’t keep it, I knew what I had to do and headed back to the sporting goods store. After the clerk was done with her customer I went up to her and told her what happened. She was thrilled that a 12-year-old kid returned the money without a parent in tow. She asked for my phone number and called my parents that evening. She thanked them for raising an honest son.

• Keep in mind that people are watching you and want to trust in you. Be that person that walks with integrity
• If someone gives you too much cash back from a sale, return money immediately
• Teach your children about honesty and its rewards, a clean conscious about doing the right thing is key to living a victorious life.
• Have the courage to say no. Have the courage to face the truth. Do the right thing because it is right. These are the magic keys to living your life with integrity.
• Real integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody’s going to know whether you did it or not.

Next week we will continue “How important is your integrity.” If you have questions concerning the status of your integrity and want to know more on how to restore your integrity call Dr. Mike at 303.456.0555

Do you need help with being a person of integrity? Do you have a hard time keeping your word to family members? Is integrity an issue with you at home or in the workplace? If you answered yes to any of these questions, please give Dr. Mike a call today at 303.456.0555.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and Life Coaching Services. His services are affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your own home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone 303.456.0555 or via Skype at drmike45. If you’re interested skyping with Dr. Mike send him an e-mail and let him know who you are and your skype name. You can also connect with Dr. Mike on Facebook with sending him a Facebook request at Michael Brooks and get his daily motivational tips and insights. The convenience of this type of coaching is the most effective means of Life counseling and life coaching. We come to you when you need us most.

There is always hope if you're willing to fight for your marriage

Integrity is key to having a healthy relationship

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Be Content with Yourself (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Be Content with Yourself (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

• Keep busy with others: When I am with others doing things that get me to interact with others I feel most involved in feeling alive. Develop relationships that take you out of your comfort zone. Get involved in some hobbies that you can meet healthy people and get you involved in other people’s lives. I wanted to join toastmasters because of my fear of speaking in front of groups of people. I thought it would benefit me in making new friends and being a better speaker. Work prevented me from joining this group and I hope to do it this year. If you like writing and want to join a writers group then by all means do it. That will keep you busy. Maybe you want to learn how to play a guitar, get in a group that will allow you to do that. My point is get involved socially with other people. It will help you to be content with outside activities.

• Be who you are: Be yourself, don’t be phony, or plastic. Many times we try to be someone we aren’t. Be real and be completely yourself. I say who cares what people think of you, it doesn’t really matter what anyone thinks. No one likes someone pretending to be someone they aren’t. Most of us shy away from someone like that. Look for good people that you would like to add as friends and make a point to get to know them. Many of us want good and decent friendships.

• Why worry: Content people don’t focus on the worries of the world. Keep in mind that 90% of the things you worry about never happen. Why waste your time on worrying. It’s pointless to do so. Look at the positive things going on in your life. There is so much to appreciate going on all around you.

• Have a plan: If you have an organized plan to get things done that will help you in being less stressed and content with your life. Most people that don’t plan find their lives in turmoil and disorganized. I know personally that when I plan things out for an event, or even going to the grocery store it makes it a whole lot easier for me when I get home. Try this sometime, it’s amazing how organizing your day makes the day go quicker and enjoyable.
In closing being content with your life means you have to take action and have a plan. If you have people who disrupt your life then you need to set personal boundaries to eliminate unwanted people and events out of your life. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being content with your life. Enjoying your life with family, friends, your work, and events is important for being content in your life. I think going to your home and knowing that the stressors in your life are under control are important for your peace of mind. Remember, being happy doesn’t mean you have it all. It simple means you’re thankful for all you have. Here are my easy to apply rules for being happy and content.

• Make peace with your past, so it won’t disturb your present
• What other people think of you is none of your business
• Time almost heals everything, give it time
• No one is in charge of your happiness, except you
• Don’t compare your life to others and don’t judge them, you have no idea what their journey is all about

Saving your marriage takes lots of energy!

Saving your marriage takes lots of energy!

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Be Content With Yourself (2) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Be Content With Yourself (2) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Here are some keys to being content and enjoying life. These are simple rules to live by and can be shared with your friends and family.
• Appreciate what you have: So many of us take for granted the things we have in our lives. We day dream about being rich and famous. We envy movie stars, rock stars, athletes and wish we could be like them and the fame that goes along with their status. Unhappy people rarely get what they want. Content people know how to live and do not place unrealistic goals in front of them. They accept things as they come and appreciate the things they have. It doesn’t do any good to complain about the problems they create for themselves, it only adds stress to their lives and makes others miserable to be around them.

• Enjoy the things you do: Content people enjoy their jobs, they enjoy helping people, listening to them and helping the people they encounter figure things out. How many people do you know that are working so many hours that they have no family life, or their health is in jeopardy. They don’t seem happy and complain a lot. Their lives are so busy that they don’t stop to smell the roses. Life is so complicated for these people.

• Live in the now: So many people often are looking back at what should have been. They have a difficult time in appreciating today and keep looking back at the bad things that happened and what they should have done to prevent the issue from happening. Content people live in the now and are at peace with themselves over their past. Do you think worrying about your past will changed what happened? Of course not, it will only frustrate you even more.

• Decide to be happy and content: Your mindset needs to be one of being positive and upbeat. You decide the minute you get up in the morning whether you are in control of how you will feel. If you normally get up in the morning in a foul mood and take it out on others in your home, you have set the tone for the rest of the family. Look at the positive things you have going for you and focus on those. Create an environment of being positive and contentment for yourself and those around you.

• Choose the right relationships: I am very careful who I allow to come into my life. There are people who can suffocate your joy, happiness and being content. Avoid these people, they offer you nothing in return and will only cause you sadness and feeling down and depressed. If you have friends that offer you encouragement, support you, and are genuine kind and caring people, hang on to them. We get joy from good friends and helping them out. I have had to eliminate friends that were constantly critical of my other friends. I love helping people and get great satisfaction in giving to others. The right relationships can be so healthy for you.

I'm rich, I'm rich!

I’m rich, I’m rich!

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Be Content With Yourself (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Be Content With Yourself (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks

I love watching people as you know. It’s a hobby of mine that gives me some great story ideas. I find people fascinating and the way they interact with people. I see all kinds of people. I see children as they explore the world around them. I see teens who are trying to grab the world by its tail. I see adults just trying to figure things out.

I was watching an elderly couple help each other get through the local grocery store parking lot as they walked on ice. He held her arm as she balanced her way through patches of ice. They walked very slowly while you could see inpatient drivers waiting on them to get to their car. As the drivers drove around them you could tell this older couple was doing the best they could without falling on the ice. I wondered what they were talking about as hurried to their car. And what were the inpatient drivers thinking? This is part of the people watching I enjoy the most, “what are people thinking?”

A lot of people struggle with personal problems and you can see it in their yes and the way they behave towards people. Wouldn’t it amazing if you could see the problems people deal with if there was a cloud over their heads identifying the problems they were dealing with? For example, you have someone cut you off on a busy highway and you get angry. Then you sense that the reason you were cut off was because the couple was racing to the hospital to be by the bedside of a child that was hurt in an auto accident. Do you think you would be more understanding? I think you would!

I was going to a university hospital for a class one morning. My friend and I got on the elevator to go to the 4th floor as the door was closing a young couple raced to get into the elevator. She started to cry and was trying to hit the button that would take her to the third floor. It was the cancer ward and I figured she got the call that someone was ready to pass away. As the elevator stopped at the third floor and the doors opened the young couple raced out of the elevator as fast as they could. I knew that they were going to face some something bad. I felt helpless watching this couple leave the elevator.

Another area that I see is where couples or individuals will argue over silly things and in public. I have heard some rather interesting disagreements over the past several years. I heard a woman telling her friend “you don’t know anything about me, how could you say that?” I figure that when couples or friends have disagreements there needs to be rules and guidelines to follow. Here are some of my thoughts.

• Don’t judge me until you know me
• Do not underestimate me until you have challenged me
• Do not talk about me until you have talked to me

Very simple rules for being content with yourself and those people who you allow to be a part of your life. Being content doesn’t mean being self-righteous it means getting the stressors out of your life. If you have guidelines and live by them you’ll deal with most problems in a diplomatic way and be in control of those around you.

Finding what your purpose in life is only a step away!

Finding what your purpose in life is only a step away!

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