Seasons of Darkness (2) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Seasons of Darkness (2) By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week, let’s continue this article on “Seasons of Darkness.” Big let downs in our life can be a major factor in creating the seasons of darkness. Relationships can certainly put you in a dark hole. Marriage problems that go unresolved definitely can be a contributor to hopelessness and dark days. Illness can be another factor as well. No matter what the reasons for your seasons of darkness, let’s look at some of the ways you can get out of the doldrums of darkness and despair.

There’s always a way out of the darkness, look for the positives life offers you!

Recognizing that you’re struggling with some sort of problem, and identify it, is the first step. If your marriage is failing, then figure out what needs to be done to restore it and have an action plan to make it happen. Sitting and doing nothing about your bad marriage or bad relationship will not fix the problem; it will only get worse if you do nothing. Action plans will help you to get out of your seasons of darkness. You moving forward with your plan will help you see more clearly on what your next steps should be. Plan carefully, don’t rush ahead of the plan. When you do that more often than not, you’ll make some big mistakes.

Don’t seek advice from people who live in penthouses, but seek advice from people who have been in the very trenches you’re in. What I mean by this statement, People who live in  penthouses (that’s a figure of speech) are those who have perfect lives and do not understand what you’re going through. Yes, they are willing to offer you advice, yet have no real experience in dealing with the emotional struggles that are causing you your “Seasons of Darkness.” They make assumptions with out real solutions.

The people who have struggled in the past with living in the seasons of darkness can quantify and be empathetic with the pain you’re experiencing. These kind of people can help you through the minefields of your emotions.

Next week, I want to continue this article on dealing with the seasons of darkness in your life. Plus, I’ll give you some tips on how to deal with the “Seasons of Darkness.”

Do you feel frustrated about your failing marriage or relationship? Do you need help in saving your marriage and family from divorce? Do you have a spouse or partner who isn’t communicating with you and you want it restored? Do you want help in learning good communication skills? Are you the partner who wants to end your relationship because it’s unhealthy? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need to talk.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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Seasons of Darkness (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Seasons of Darkness (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks

When was the last time you struggled with some kind of emotional, physical, or spiritual pain? How long did it last? What were the causes of it? Who did it effect and why? I know I’m asking a lot of questions, but their important questions that need answers and from you and only you! Searching for answers with boldness and truthfulness from you, will help you find a way out of the darkness. Seasons of darkness can last for days, months, and even years if allowed.

Seasons of Darkness can last a lifetime if you don’t deal with your fears!

The sad fact is that many who live in these dark times have admittedly given up and can no longer fight the fight. Are you one of those who just struggle to get up in the morning? Do you lay around, emotionally exhausted and wait for things to happen or get better, and your life is out of control? Life can be hard at times, and for many, they give up, they say, “come what may.”

I don’t know a person who can say, life has been peachy, wonderful, and not a care in the world. We all have our ups and downs and trust me; every one of us has been through the battles of life. It may be relationship issues, health issues, financial problems, any issues for that matter that darken our days.

Well, Dr. Mike, how do I get out of these dark and dreary times? I need some ideas on how to move on with my life and not stay in the darkness or storms of life, so what is the secret of moving on with my life?

It’s not really a secret, and it’s not magic, it’s putting a plan together and coming to grips with it. It will not be easy and may be very difficult to do, but it needs to happen. I know for many of you, it will be scary to go into uncharted territory, or shall I say for some of you, carefully challenged and overly catious. You can also call this a wilderness experience. You seem alone and have been wandering in the darkness for ever so long. Your sleep patterns has been disrupted; you rarely eat, you’ve lost that get-up and go drive.

We’ll go into more detail next week, I want to continue this article on dealing with the seasons of darkness in your life.

Do you feel frustrated about your failing marriage or relationship? Do you need help in saving your marriage and family from divorce? Do you have a spouse or partner who isn’t communicating with you and you want it restored? Do you want help in learning good communication skills? Are you the partner who wants to end your relationship because it’s unhealthy? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need to talk.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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Every Day is a Friday (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Every Day is a Friday (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Today, we’ll finish this article series on Every Day is a Friday. I think having a positive attitude is key to making Every Day a Friday. What you think and dwell on or about negatively will impact you for that day. If you dread going to work and hate your boss or co-workers, that’s where your energy will go. Look for the good things in your job, be positive. Be thankful you have a job. If you can’t stand your job, then change things by getting a different job, or getting more education to move to a different position in the company you work for. There are positives in your life, you may just have to dig deeper to find them, but they are there!

Making your “Every Day is a Friday” is a new concept and can change the way you think!

Here are my tips for making Every Day a Friday:

Plan ahead for the enjoyable things you like to do. Plan a date night with your spouse or have a family night where you have pizza, and play games. Plan a vacation with your spouse or with the family.

Start enjoying time reading the books you used to like and get back into reading them. Go to Amazon and check out a few titles you might be interested in and order them. I do that all the time, and I really enjoy spending my time causal time reading them.

If you like being in the outdoors, plan some activities that you enjoy. If you like hiking, then I’d suggest going on two hikes per month. If you enjoy camping, then maybe one per month during the summer. Have something to look forward to each and every day of the week.

Once you start filling up your days up with things you like to do and look forward to, then you will understand the principle of Every Day is a Friday.

In closing, you are the only one who can make the “Every Day is a Friday” a part of your life, there are many obstacles in life that can prevent this way of thinking. If you plan your days around things you look forward to doing, you will see how your attitude will change in a positive way, trust me it does work. I’ve seen it in many of the clients that I work with; once they adopt this way of thinking, life seems better and less stressful.

Do you need help in getting your joy back? Do you struggle with planning enjoyable activities and need some guidance in planning them? Call Dr. Mike and he can help you find what you need to do to love each and everyday day of the week and to make it the “Every Day is a Friday” sensation.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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Every Day is a Friday (2) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Every Day is a Friday (2) By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week we will continue “Every Day is a Friday”. I love my family, love my job, love my friends, I think about all these wonderful things in my life. I believe most people love Friday’s too and what Friday brings, why? It’s the last day of the work week for most people. Many have made plans and are looking forward to having fun and enjoying the weekend. You start thinking about the weekend plans you’ve made on Monday  and through Thursday and you can’t wait till Friday gets here.

Make every day a Friday, buy planning fun and creative events for you and the family!

I guess my dad got me thinking this way. As a kid he would let us know what we’d be doing on Friday evening around the dinner table, Saturdays and Sundays were busy days for the Brooks family with chores and fun planned activities. He’d have some great plans in store for us, there were four of us kids. On Saturday morning the whole family would head over to the commersary (military term for a grocery store)and then the PX. Then we’d go to our sports games, all of us were in sports. Looking back, I can see why Fridays were something I looked forward to as a kid that carried over into my adult years.

Now, when I get up in the mornings, I have my day pretty much planned out. I know the things I have to get done for that day. I make sure that I have my day planned out on paper, or in my calendar with work and extra activities that I enjoy. I make sure that I have something to look forward to each and every single day. I enjoy spending time in the outdoors, If it’s working on the yard, I will have that all planned out what needs to be done. I will plan on reading a book over a two week period, usually something that intrigues me (history or documentary). I love cooking meals for my family and friends, BBQ’s, etc. I will meet friends for lunch or dinner during the week. Keeping my day busy makes the day go by quickly and creates some wonderful memories.

Next week we will continue the article on Every Day is a Friday. Dr. Mike will have some tips that will help you find a way to make Every Day is a Friday.

Do you need help in getting your joy back? Do you struggle with planning enjoyable activities and need some guidance in planning them? Call Dr. Mike and he can help you find what you need to do to love each and everyday day of the week and to make it the, Every Day is a Friday sensation.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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Every Day is a Friday (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Every Day is a Friday (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks

I love Fridays, in fact, I look forward to them. I think about my time with my family, friends and what we will be doing on Friday evenings. I love evening meals with family and friends, spending time talking about their day and how their week has been. I hear about their tough days at work and at home. Then I realize how blessed I am. I love my job, in which I am very passionate about. I can’t believe how happy I am about helping others in need. It drives me to be the best that I can be. I love helping people in difficult situations and finding solutions for their problems, this is one of my joys in life.

Just think, today is Friday! Relax, the weekend is about to begin, what plans do you have?

So, I guess you’re wondering why my Headline is “Every Day is a Friday?” I often get asked, Mike, how’s your day going? My response is “Not bad for a Friday!” it doesn’t matter what day of the week it is. I’m used to getting quizzical looks when I responded that way. Then I’d explain, I am truly blessed, I love my family, love my job, love my friends, I think about all these wonderful things in my life. I believe most people love Friday’s too, why? It’s the last day of the work week for most people. They have plans they have made and are looking forward to them. You start thinking about the weekend plans you’ve made on Monday through Thursday and can’t wait till Friday is here.

Next week we will continue the article on Every Day is a Friday.

Do you need help in getting your joy back? Do you struggle with planning enjoyable activities and need some guidance in planning them? Call Dr. Mike and he can help you find what you need to do to love each and everyday day of the week and to make it the, Every Day is a Friday sensation. Call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878

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Facing Your Giants (7) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Facing Your Giants (7) By Dr. Michael Brooks

This is the last article in a series in, Facing Your Giants. If you enjoyed these articles, please let Dr. Mike know. He always enjoys hearing from his readers. He currently is working on his podcast for his readers. If you have any podcast show idea’s let him know.

The Giant of failed relationships can be scary!

Are you facing the giant of a failed relationship? We all have failed at a relationship at one time or another. It could have been a high school sweetheart, parents, friends, a co-worker. We all have been there. I know some people who recoil and fear about getting involved in another relationship. It may have been a bad marriage or a broken relationship with your brother or sister, or anyone for that matter. These things happen. You have to trust yourself and believe that you can make the right choices the next time you get involved with someone. The pain of losing a relationship can be difficult, and honestly sad at the same time. Maybe someone you trusted violated a private conversation, that you had with them, and you had to end the relationship. Is it possible that you ruined the relationship by something you said or something you did or didn’t do? I think the fear of facing your giant of a failed relationship can be daunting if you imagine every relationship that you enter in will fail. Take that leap of faith and believe the best in any new relationship. Work hard at learning how to communicate and read the other person. Watching what you say and learning how to listen is key to any new or growing healthy relationship.

In closing, there are many giants that we will face; it’s just a matter on how we face them, do we run and hide or take them head-on with a sound plan or bury our heads in the sand? I know there are many other giants that I have not covered in this article. If you have other giants, please let me know, let’s expose them and talk about the ones that you face.

Do you need help in overcoming the giants of your past? Do you struggle with memories of broken relationships, illness, self-worth, confidence? What are the giants that you currently face and need help in defeating them? Giants can be debilitating and keep you from enjoying life and a successful life. Call Dr. Mike, and he can help you through the process of taking your giants head on and help you to move forward with your life. Why live in a defeated and hurtful past, when you can enjoy a stress-free present and future?

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous, and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

 

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Facing Your Giants (6) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Facing Your Giants (6) By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week we will continue facing your giant’s article, let’s look at what causes some of the giants you face. So my question for you today: what are the Giants that you’re facing and want help in confronting today? You may have one or several Giants that control you.

Do you need help in dealing with a health crisis? I think Illness is another big giant, many face or will face down the road. I have seen many patients of mine who have had serious health issues and are not sure how to deal with their upcoming crisis. Diseases are scary; surgeries are uncomfortable and can cause uncertainties. Health situations are either in your control or not. What do you mean by that, Dr. Mike?

Planning an exercise program and doing it can help you feel better and help you enjoy life!

Case in point, both my parents smoked two and a half packs of cigarettes a day and were heavy drinkers. Both had lung cancer from 50 plus years of smoking; I suspect that they could have lived much longer lives had they not smoked. Why do I say this? Both my mom and dad passed away at 69 years of age. My two uncles (dads brothers) had never smoked or drank and lived to be in their nineties. That’s the barometer I use for our family. My sister smoked three packs a day and died at 52 years of age from throat cancer and being an alcoholic. My other brothers smoked as well. My oldest brother passed from issues of brain cancer.

I have never smoked, drank, or did any kind of drugs; I exercise every day and eat healthy meals. I honestly believe that you should be taking an active approach to regaining and improving your health. How? Do your research in the area that you need to improve your health. If you fear the “Giant of illness”, you should have a plan that gets you to feeling better and have someone who can talk and work with you to detail your action steps. I can do that for you as I have many clients who use me in regaining their health. I have many of my clients who have been told by their Dr’s, you need exercise, and to lose weight. I have diabetic clients needing help, if you just want to feel better and want help, then we need to talk. I have many clients who I consult with over the phone, and actually, walk them through a personal program. I have many clients who have me talk them through the workout programs that I have designed specifically for them, while we speak on the phone. If you’re interested, call me. This seems to be the new norm for getting a good exercise program (it works well with all my walking clients) a walking coach to talk you through your walk. Lose weight while walking off the pounds!

I have a friend that is a diabetic. His Diabetes is something that needs attention every day. He has to watch what he eats and is not supposed to cheat. I went out to lunch with him while he was visiting from the Midwest, and he was telling me all about his diabetic issues, how he was using insulin twice a day while trying to lose weight. The server asked us for our order, and he ordered a burger, lots of fries and a piece of apple pie with ice cream. I didn’t say anything and wondered how he thought that this was helping him with his diabetes and weight loss.

On the other hand, I have another friend who has diabetes and watches what he eats. He eats lots of meats and vegetables, drinks plenty of fluids (water, tea) and hardly has anything with high carbs or sugar. He is doing great and exercises daily. He is in control of his health for the most part.

If you have any illnesses or health concerns and this is the giant you face, then take the proper steps and do something about it. See your doctor and get a checkup, I’d be happy to discuss your next steps in regaining a healthy lifestyle and help you put together a structured program for you. Call for an appointment today!

Next week we will continue this article on “Facing Your Giants”.

Do you need help in overcoming the giants of your past? Do you struggle with memories of broken relationships, illness, self-worth, confidence? What are the giants that you currently face and need help in defeating them? Giants can be debilitating and keep you from enjoying life and a successful life. Call Dr. Mike, and he can help you through the process of taking your giants head on and help you to move forward with your life. Why live in a defeated and hurtful past, when you can enjoy a stress-free present and future?

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous, and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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Facing Your Giants (5) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Facing Your Giants (5) By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week we will continue facing your giants, let’s look at what causes some of the giants you face. So my question for you today: what are the Giants that you’re facing and want help in confronting? You may have one or several Giants that control you.

Are you willing to fight for your marriage, if you are then get the help that you need, don’t wait!

Divorce/separation is a giant many will face at some time during their lifetime; whether you are in this process or a parent of an adult child who is going through a divorce or separation, this can be a big as a giant that you or your loved one will ever face. When someone doesn’t want a divorce, the pain that this causes will feel like death for those getting divorce papers served on them. I have many friends who have gone through a divorce and the stories I hear bring sadness and despair for many of them. How do you deal with this issue, well, I would suggest that you get marriage counseling ASAP. Don’t wait for the marriage to get better; get help immediately. There is no perfect time for counseling; get it now! I have had clients tell me that they’ll wait for the right time to mention getting counseling.

Sorry, just to inform you the longer you wait, the sooner your marriage will end. Issues need to be brought up and as uncomfortable as they may be, it is absolutely imperative to sit down and discuss your issues. Don’t think for a minute that avoiding talking about embarrassing issues you may have, will gain you some medal of marriage honors. It will simply destroy all levels of communication. You can’t fix what you don’t talk about. I know it can be really difficult to bring up topics such as intimacy, money, trust, but you need to be open and real about the issues you see and the ones you suspect that your spouse is dealing with. Honesty is the way to defeat your giant.

I can remember a friend of mine that got served divorce papers and had no idea that he was about to be served. His wife went and saw a divorce lawyer and filed for a divorce. He was shocked when he was served, he tried talking with her, and she would have none of it. He said he would go to counseling with her, talk with their pastor, he’d do whatever it took to save their marriage. She had her mind made up; it was over. His giant in his divorce was her refusing to explain what her reasons were for filing for divorce. It’s hard to repair a relationship when you’ve been kicked to the curb, and no communication whatsoever is coming from your spouse.

He came to find out that she was involved with another man and was sleeping with him. If they just communicated the problems before, probably this marriage could have been saved. I suggest that if you don’t want to face the giant of divorce you better take stock in what is being said and not being said. Be a good observer and read the signs before you; they will be obvious most likely. Listen well, ask questions, and communicate your feelings. This giant can be conquered if you’re willing to do the work. Divorce is not worth it, trust me on this. . Next week we will continue the article facing your giants, see if any of the giants you face are ones others face as well.

Do you need help in overcoming the giants of your past? Do you struggle with memories of broken relationships, illness, self-worth, confidence? What are the giants that you currently face and need help in defeating them? Giants can be debilitating and keep you from enjoying life and a successful life. Call Dr. Mike, and he can help you through the process of taking your giants head on and help you to move forward with your life. Why live in a defeated and hurtful past, when you can enjoy a stress-free present and future?

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous, and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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Facing Your Giants (4) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Facing Your Giants (4) By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week I will continue my article on, “Facing Your Giants”. Let’s look at what causes some of the giants you face in your everyday life. So my question for you today is, what are the Giants that you’re facing and want help and confront today? You may have one or several Giants that control the way you think and act.

The giant of self-doubting is huge for many of us, how many of you have had this problem? I sure have and on many levels. Many doubt that they are good enough for their spouses, their jobs, and families. I often felt self-doubt in my sports career, I competed with many great athletes, and was very hard on myself when playing against these guys. I had great expectations for myself in the weight room, but often questioned my abilities on the field. I had one coach who believed in, my in athletic abilities and would often recognize and compliment me in front of the team after we went into the locker room after a game. It was then that I realized the pressure that I was putting on myself was not necessary. The same went for other areas in my life relating to my self-doubt. Hard to believe that a football coach helped me see through my self-doubt and trust in my athletic abilities and how that would translate in real life.

Often self-doubt is a feeling of uncertainty or distrust. Example: I had self-doubts about my athletic ability, or doubting peoples words (many have said things that’d they do and never follow up with making things happen). It could be a point in which one is uncertain or skeptical about trusting people as well. This is a big giant for many people.

Loneliness is often described as a sadness because one has no friends or company to be with. I often wonder how many people are lonely because it’s self-inflicted. They make no point in making friends and are perfectly ok with no friends whatsoever. How sad that must be, you don’t share holidays, birthdays, special occasions. Some people just avoid being around others, and honestly I don’t fault these people it’s the way they want to live their lives. I had a client years ago who wanted to divorce her husband. She didn’t want to be married any longer and decided to end the marriage of 25 years. She filed for divorce against the wishes of her husband. She packed up all her belongings and moved out of state. This shocked the entire family and she wanted nothing to do with them. To this day her kids have honored her wishes and have nothing to do with their mother and don’t care if they ever hear anything about her. She refuses to reach out and contact any of her children.

I look at someone like this and their actions that have caused a great deal of heartache. So the question I often get is, how do you deal with loneliness if it is hard to make friends? This is where I suggest that you learn how to reach out to others and get involved in their lives. Yes, it may be uncomfortable, but it is necessary to end the loneliness that you’re experiencing. Make a point to join social clubs, a gym, book club, find a group at church, join a professional association from work. There are ways to get involved. To end loneliness you need to take the first step in making things happen. I know that this a giant for many of you. If you’re lonely and need help in overcoming this, I can help you with that. Call me. . Next week we will continue the article facing your giants, see if any of the giants you face are ones others face as well.

Do you need help in overcoming the giants of your past? Do you struggle with memories of broken relationships, illness, self-worth, confidence? What are the giants that you currently face and need help in defeating them? Giants can be debilitating and keep you from enjoying life and successful life. Call Dr. Mike and he can help you through the process of taking your giants head on and help you to move forward with your life. Why live in a defeated and hurtful past, when you can enjoy a stress-free present and future?

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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Facing Your Giants (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Facing Your Giants (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week we will continue facing your giants, look at what causes some of the giants you face. So my question for you today: what are the Giants that you’re facing and want help and confront today? You may have one or several Giants that control you.

Divorce is not for the faint at heart.

There is the fear of divorce, and separation. Less than half the marriages in the US will not survive and end up in divorce. Moving on with your life when considering a divorce can be devastating. I suggest that you sit down and look at your next steps in getting your life back from a bad marriage. I can tell you that it’s a difficult time during the process, but you will survive. You can contact Dr. Mike if you need help in figuring out what your next steps are.

Anxiety is normal and can be a healthy emotion. But when a person on a regular basis feels different levels of anxiety, this may be a medical disorder and needs to be addressed. Anxiety disorders need a mental health diagnoses, concerns that often lead to excessive nervousness, fear, apprehension, and worry. We all experience a degree of anxiety, when asking your boss for a raise, or asking your significant other to marry you, I believe those are healthy levels of anxiety. So, what are the ways I can deal with my symptoms of anxiety? Ask yourself why am I so anxious? Look at what is causing the feeling of being anxious. Take a deep breath and try to relax, start your positive self-talk to yourself, think about positive locations where you feel safe, beaches, forests, lakes, and why you feel safe there. My big question to ask yourself, are you in control of your brain or is your brain in control of you?

I can remember when taking a big Physiology of exercise exam in college, how anxious I was. I studied for days and nights, this exam was the big test to get you into the next level of your degree program. I was not sleeping, I joined study groups, I had Q-cards I used when eating meals, and at work. I was working myself into “I will not pass this test,” no matter how hard I worked at passing this major exam.” The finally arrived and a million thoughts raced through my head, as I sat at my desk and waited for the test to be placed in my hands a still small voice started talking to me. You’ve got this, you have worked so hard and spent countless hours preparing for this very exam. I agreed with what my mind was telling me. A calmness took over and I looked at the test, and started taking it. Midway through this exam, my self-talk reminded me, “see you’re worrying over nothing, no reason to get anxious.” I talked myself into using facts about how much time I put into studying and all the hard work I did. Believe me that helped. I looked at the facts, my efforts in reading, analyzing data. I overcame my anxiety. That was one of my biggest giants!  . Next week we will continue the article facing your giants, see if any of the giants you face are ones others face as well.

Do you need help in overcoming the giants of your past? Do you struggle with memories of broken relationships, illness, self-worth, confidence? What are the giants that you currently face and need help in defeating them? Giants can be debilitating and keep you from enjoying life and successful life. Call Dr. Mike and he can help you through the process of taking your giants head on and help you to move forward with your life. Why live in a defeated and hurtful past, when you can enjoy a stress-free present and future?

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

 

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