How Important is Your Integrity (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks

How Important is Your Integrity? (1)
By Dr. Michael Brooks

I have a friend who makes promises that are not kept very often. I remember asking this person for a ride to an appointment. My car was in the shop and I called and explained that I needed help in getting to this appointment. Keep in mind that this is the first time I’ve asked this person for a favor. I had to leave at 8:00 AM to make an 8:30 appointment. I waited until 8:15 to call and see if they were on their way to get me, I got no answer from this person. I called at 8:20 still no answer. I called another friend down the road to see if he could get me to my appointment. He came right over and got me to my meeting albeit 20 minutes late. I called my friend later that afternoon and talked to him and asked why he didn’t show up. His excuse was that he had other commitments he forgot about and didn’t have time to call me. That my friends is what I call the lack of integrity. Would I call this person ever again? Not at all. If you tell someone you’re going to do something for them, DO IT. Keep your word. Don’t make promises that you don’t intend to keep.

My question to you, and believe me, I include myself in this question. Who are we when nobody is looking? Are we true to ourselves and others with our words and actions? That’s the kind of integrity I am talking about. We have to live within our own core values and be examples for others when we walk with integrity. My thought is this: Are your words dependable, can people count on you to follow through with what you tell them? Can you be trusted in your words and deeds? Let’s face it most of us have been let down by family member or friends. Yes, even some of our bosses have let us down. In a world of broken promises keep in mind that you’ll do your part to keep your integrity intact.

I can remember when I was 12 years old buying something at a sporting goods store. I paid at the checkout and gave the clerk my money and she handed me back my change. I didn’t even look at the amount she gave me. When I got home and looked at my money, she gave a $20.00 instead of a one-dollar bill. I looked at the $20-dollar bill in disbelief. I knew I couldn’t keep it, I knew what I had to do and headed back to the sporting goods store. After the clerk was done with her customer I went up to her and told her what happened. She was thrilled that a 12-year-old kid returned the money without a parent in tow. She asked for my phone number and called my parents that evening. She thanked them for raising an honest son.

• Keep in mind that people are watching you and want to trust in you. Be that person that walks with integrity
• If someone gives you too much cash back from a sale, return money immediately
• Teach your children about honesty and its rewards, a clean conscious about doing the right thing is key to living a victorious life.
• Have the courage to say no. Have the courage to face the truth. Do the right thing because it is right. These are the magic keys to living your life with integrity.
• Real integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody’s going to know whether you did it or not.

Next week we will continue “How important is your integrity.” If you have questions concerning the status of your integrity and want to know more on how to restore your integrity call Dr. Mike at 303.456.0555

Do you need help with being a person of integrity? Do you have a hard time keeping your word to family members? Is integrity an issue with you at home or in the workplace? If you answered yes to any of these questions, please give Dr. Mike a call today at 303.456.0555.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and Life Coaching Services. His services are affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your own home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone 303.456.0555 or via Skype at drmike45. If you’re interested skyping with Dr. Mike send him an e-mail and let him know who you are and your skype name. You can also connect with Dr. Mike on Facebook with sending him a Facebook request at Michael Brooks and get his daily motivational tips and insights. The convenience of this type of coaching is the most effective means of Life counseling and life coaching. We come to you when you need us most.

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Be Content with Yourself (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Be Content with Yourself (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

• Keep busy with others: When I am with others doing things that get me to interact with others I feel most involved in feeling alive. Develop relationships that take you out of your comfort zone. Get involved in some hobbies that you can meet healthy people and get you involved in other people’s lives. I wanted to join toastmasters because of my fear of speaking in front of groups of people. I thought it would benefit me in making new friends and being a better speaker. Work prevented me from joining this group and I hope to do it this year. If you like writing and want to join a writers group then by all means do it. That will keep you busy. Maybe you want to learn how to play a guitar, get in a group that will allow you to do that. My point is get involved socially with other people. It will help you to be content with outside activities.

• Be who you are: Be yourself, don’t be phony, or plastic. Many times we try to be someone we aren’t. Be real and be completely yourself. I say who cares what people think of you, it doesn’t really matter what anyone thinks. No one likes someone pretending to be someone they aren’t. Most of us shy away from someone like that. Look for good people that you would like to add as friends and make a point to get to know them. Many of us want good and decent friendships.

• Why worry: Content people don’t focus on the worries of the world. Keep in mind that 90% of the things you worry about never happen. Why waste your time on worrying. It’s pointless to do so. Look at the positive things going on in your life. There is so much to appreciate going on all around you.

• Have a plan: If you have an organized plan to get things done that will help you in being less stressed and content with your life. Most people that don’t plan find their lives in turmoil and disorganized. I know personally that when I plan things out for an event, or even going to the grocery store it makes it a whole lot easier for me when I get home. Try this sometime, it’s amazing how organizing your day makes the day go quicker and enjoyable.
In closing being content with your life means you have to take action and have a plan. If you have people who disrupt your life then you need to set personal boundaries to eliminate unwanted people and events out of your life. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being content with your life. Enjoying your life with family, friends, your work, and events is important for being content in your life. I think going to your home and knowing that the stressors in your life are under control are important for your peace of mind. Remember, being happy doesn’t mean you have it all. It simple means you’re thankful for all you have. Here are my easy to apply rules for being happy and content.

• Make peace with your past, so it won’t disturb your present
• What other people think of you is none of your business
• Time almost heals everything, give it time
• No one is in charge of your happiness, except you
• Don’t compare your life to others and don’t judge them, you have no idea what their journey is all about

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Saving your marriage takes lots of energy!

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Be Content With Yourself (2) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Be Content With Yourself (2) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Here are some keys to being content and enjoying life. These are simple rules to live by and can be shared with your friends and family.
• Appreciate what you have: So many of us take for granted the things we have in our lives. We day dream about being rich and famous. We envy movie stars, rock stars, athletes and wish we could be like them and the fame that goes along with their status. Unhappy people rarely get what they want. Content people know how to live and do not place unrealistic goals in front of them. They accept things as they come and appreciate the things they have. It doesn’t do any good to complain about the problems they create for themselves, it only adds stress to their lives and makes others miserable to be around them.

• Enjoy the things you do: Content people enjoy their jobs, they enjoy helping people, listening to them and helping the people they encounter figure things out. How many people do you know that are working so many hours that they have no family life, or their health is in jeopardy. They don’t seem happy and complain a lot. Their lives are so busy that they don’t stop to smell the roses. Life is so complicated for these people.

• Live in the now: So many people often are looking back at what should have been. They have a difficult time in appreciating today and keep looking back at the bad things that happened and what they should have done to prevent the issue from happening. Content people live in the now and are at peace with themselves over their past. Do you think worrying about your past will changed what happened? Of course not, it will only frustrate you even more.

• Decide to be happy and content: Your mindset needs to be one of being positive and upbeat. You decide the minute you get up in the morning whether you are in control of how you will feel. If you normally get up in the morning in a foul mood and take it out on others in your home, you have set the tone for the rest of the family. Look at the positive things you have going for you and focus on those. Create an environment of being positive and contentment for yourself and those around you.

• Choose the right relationships: I am very careful who I allow to come into my life. There are people who can suffocate your joy, happiness and being content. Avoid these people, they offer you nothing in return and will only cause you sadness and feeling down and depressed. If you have friends that offer you encouragement, support you, and are genuine kind and caring people, hang on to them. We get joy from good friends and helping them out. I have had to eliminate friends that were constantly critical of my other friends. I love helping people and get great satisfaction in giving to others. The right relationships can be so healthy for you.

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I’m rich, I’m rich!

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Be Content With Yourself (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Be Content With Yourself (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks

I love watching people as you know. It’s a hobby of mine that gives me some great story ideas. I find people fascinating and the way they interact with people. I see all kinds of people. I see children as they explore the world around them. I see teens who are trying to grab the world by its tail. I see adults just trying to figure things out.

I was watching an elderly couple help each other get through the local grocery store parking lot as they walked on ice. He held her arm as she balanced her way through patches of ice. They walked very slowly while you could see inpatient drivers waiting on them to get to their car. As the drivers drove around them you could tell this older couple was doing the best they could without falling on the ice. I wondered what they were talking about as hurried to their car. And what were the inpatient drivers thinking? This is part of the people watching I enjoy the most, “what are people thinking?”

A lot of people struggle with personal problems and you can see it in their yes and the way they behave towards people. Wouldn’t it amazing if you could see the problems people deal with if there was a cloud over their heads identifying the problems they were dealing with? For example, you have someone cut you off on a busy highway and you get angry. Then you sense that the reason you were cut off was because the couple was racing to the hospital to be by the bedside of a child that was hurt in an auto accident. Do you think you would be more understanding? I think you would!

I was going to a university hospital for a class one morning. My friend and I got on the elevator to go to the 4th floor as the door was closing a young couple raced to get into the elevator. She started to cry and was trying to hit the button that would take her to the third floor. It was the cancer ward and I figured she got the call that someone was ready to pass away. As the elevator stopped at the third floor and the doors opened the young couple raced out of the elevator as fast as they could. I knew that they were going to face some something bad. I felt helpless watching this couple leave the elevator.

Another area that I see is where couples or individuals will argue over silly things and in public. I have heard some rather interesting disagreements over the past several years. I heard a woman telling her friend “you don’t know anything about me, how could you say that?” I figure that when couples or friends have disagreements there needs to be rules and guidelines to follow. Here are some of my thoughts.

• Don’t judge me until you know me
• Do not underestimate me until you have challenged me
• Do not talk about me until you have talked to me

Very simple rules for being content with yourself and those people who you allow to be a part of your life. Being content doesn’t mean being self-righteous it means getting the stressors out of your life. If you have guidelines and live by them you’ll deal with most problems in a diplomatic way and be in control of those around you.

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Are The Holidays Tough on You? By Dr. Michael Brooks

Are the Holidays tough on you (3)
By Dr. Michael Brooks

Have you started making or thinking about your New Year’s resolutions? You know the ones that you made last year and didn’t keep. Like the “I’m going to the gym and workout to lose the weight I gained from last year.” Or the most famous one, “I’m going to eat healthy this year and stick to a strict diet that will help me lose 30 pounds.” Whatever..bla, bla, and bla! We’ve all said it haven’t we? Me included. I told myself, Mike…don’t eat those fries, they’re not good for you!!! I came back with..what, I’ll eat them in moderation, only a few. Well my friends the few turned out to be a lot more then I planned to eat. I felt so guilty in eating them.

When you forgive you can move forward with your life

When you forgive you can move forward with your life


Today we want to talk about making realistic goals that will help you keep those goals for this coming New Year. First of all if you’re planning to lose weight, stop smoking or kick a bad habit you have to decide why you are setting those goals. Are they your goals, or someone else’s? If the doctor told you that you better quit smoking because you’re a candidate for lung issues and to prevent further damage you better quit. Then that is a pretty good reason to quit. If it’s a weight problem and you’re not fitting into clothes that you like to wear, then that’s a resolution without someone suggesting you need to lose weight. You decided that.

I had a friend tell me that resolutions are made to be broken, especially New Year’s resolutions. I don’t agree with that. I think they’re broken because people don’t understand the personal self-agreement that they make with themselves. What is the purpose and reason we make these resolutions? Most people don’t have a clue. Maybe a friend says “I’m going on a diet,” and you say to yourself..me too! With no thought behind it whatsoever. If you’re going to make a resolution, then plan it out. Make a step by step plan, how does it work and look like and the biggest thought here, is it realistic?
I think people make these New Year’s resolutions on a whim and give no thought behind it. Like working out at your gym. Every year I see new faces of men and women at my gym who had good intentions of losing weight and getting into good physical condition. Each week we see fewer and fewer of them. Until the end of the month, we don’t see hardly any of them. It’s amusing but sad.

Here is a list of common broken New Year’s resolutions.

• Losing weight
• Going on a diet
• Asking for a raise
• Taking a vacation
• Reading books
• Balancing your check book
• Mending broken relationships
• Quit Smoking
• Less drinking
• Get out of debt and save money
• Eating healthy foods and improve your health

If you’re serious about making some changes in your life for next year, then start planning and making realistic ones that you can commit to. I have seen and heard people make some pretty outlandish New Year’s resolutions. I had a man tell me that he was going to lose 100 pounds in 6 months. There was no way he would be able to do this. He never exercised or dieted. I think he was hoping that he could do this with other people inspiring him. You have to be accountable for your resolutions and be able to stick to them. He had great intentions but never got even close to reaching the goal of 100 pounds lost.

If you do plan to have New Year’s resolutions, write them out, go over them and put dates next to your goals and keep tabs on them. You can do this!

Are you struggling with the loss of a family member, spouse or friends and are having a difficult time moving forward? Is Christmas so painful that you dread this time of year and need help in getting past the holidays? Are you hurting over a divorce or are separated and need to talk to someone about the pain you’re experiencing? Do you need help in planning how to get through the holidays? If you answered yes to any of these questions give Dr. Mike a call he can help you get through the holidays.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and Life Coaching Services. His services are affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your own home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone 303.456.0555 or via Skype at drmike45. If you’re interested skyping with Dr. Mike send him an e-mail and let him know who you are and your skype name. The convenience of this type of coaching is the most effective means of Life counseling and life coaching. We come to you when you need us most.

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Are The Holidays Tough on You? By Dr. Michael Brooks

Are the Holidays Tough on You? (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks

I remember when growing up as a kid that the Christmas season was pretty exciting. Most kids don’t have a care in the world. Their world consists of friends, playing games, what’s for dinner, and when do we get to open presents? You knew that you’d be seeing distant family members sometime during the Christmas break. Maybe you’d have an Uncle Arnie like I did that would be there, he was the black sheep of the family, but always was your favorite uncle. He loved you because you paid attention to him and you were his only reason he came by the house to spend time with the family. The TV was on and you watched movies like “Its A Wonderful Life.” “The Christmas Story.” The entire family would enjoy Christmas dinner around the table together laughing and joking around. That’s the pretty side of Christmas, the one that’s represented on a yule tide Christmas cards. It’s the Christmas image we all would like to have with snow falling and a cup of hot chocolate.

Down for the holidays

Down for the holidays

But for many people that’s not the Christmas they will enjoy this year. They have lost a loved one, they have gone through a divorce or separation. A once beautiful friendship was lost because of a bitter disagreement or someone moved away. A family member only has a short time to live and this family will be at the hospital or hospice sharing a last Christmas together.

For most of us adults, there is some sadness associated with this time of year. I think having family helps us deal with some of the faded memories we often have of lost loved ones. Maybe our parents who were really into Christmas, with their decorating, making cookies, hanging Christmas lights, and like my dad would belt out a Bing Crosby “Dreaming of a White Christmas,” and we’d all chime in and sing along. Sometimes their good things to think about and sometimes they can a haunting memory of Christmas past.

In any case, be on the lookout for someone that is spending Christmas alone. Invite them over for a meal and present them with a small gift or gift card. That could mean the world to someone spending Christmas alone. The difference that would make for the lonely and brokenhearted person you know could mean life or death of their spirit.

The joy of helping others goes a long way for you personally. Just knowing that you’re making a difference in someone’s life and their family is a feel good moment. Have you ever thought, how can I help someone during Christmas? Here are a few ideas for you to ponder:

· If you know of a family struggling, offer to buy their kids presents.
· If you know of a family in your community or church, get them a gift certificate for groceries in your local grocery store.
· Offer to run errands for someone that is ill that you know.
· Make cookies or treats for a family in need.
· If you know of a family that has children and you know that they have limited income, buy a movie gift card for the entire family.
· Take a family out to dinner.

These are just a few ideas that you can reach out to those in need in your sphere of influence. It will take some time on your part but well worth the effort in bringing joy in other people’s lives.

Are you struggling with the loss of a family member, spouse or friends and are having a difficult time moving forward? Is Christmas so painful that you dread this time of year and need help in getting past the holidays? Are you hurting over a divorce or are separated and need to talk to someone about the pain you’re experiencing? Do you need help in planning how to get through the holidays? If you answered yes to any of these questions give Dr. Mike a call he can help you get through the holidays.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and Life Coaching Services. His services are affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your own home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone 303.456.0555 or via Skype at drmike45. If you’re interested skyping with Dr. Mike send him an e-mail and let him know who you are and your skype name. The convenience of this type of coaching is the most effective means of Life counseling and life coaching. We come to you when you need us most.

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The Power of Your Words Give Life or Death (5) By Dr. Michael Brooks

The Power of Your Words Give Life or Death (5) By Dr. Michael Brooks

You want to create good memories of what your children think of you and how you are setting an example of how they will raise their families when they are on their own. Kids today live in a world of mass confusion. Why? It’s the electronics, mass media, the internet and so much more. Be kind in what you say to your kids. Be a parent and not a best friend. Be in control of your feelings at all times.

Your words give life and death in your marriage, did you know that? Well they do and men and women need to know that. In the age of easy divorces and separations you really need to know the right words that help you build up each other.

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Using uplifting words and being less critical helps promotes healing

What words do most divorcing and separated couples use against each other? Remember your words mean life and death to your marriage! One of the biggest death words in a marriage spiraling out of control is “lack of communication” avoiding talking with each other because you’re angry. You want to punish the other person by avoiding speaking or seeing them. I want to encourage you if this is your style of inflicting pain on your spouse it’s a recipe for disaster.

In your anger don’t say anything that your spouse will take personally. Don’t say anything about their physical appearance. Don’t be critical about their weight, being bald, the way they dress, the way they do their hair. Avoid going down this road. You may think it funny and say they don’t care what you say about their appearance…trust me it’s a deep painful reminder each and every time you say it. If you have done this in the past you owe your spouse an apology and never say it again. Words can kill a marriage or any relationship for that matter.

Don’t talk bad about your in-laws, another marriage word killer. Stay away and avoid doing this. You being married to your spouse and talking negatively about your spouse’s family can be a mine field for you and have some bad consequences for your marriage. I keep repeating myself here..if you don’t have anything good to say about your in-laws, then don’t say anything at all. I have seen some big arguments in my office from a spouse who has been critical towards their in-laws. I think sitting down with your spouse and explaining why you feel the way you do would go a long way in preventing issues with spouse and your in-laws. Finding faults with in-laws can be a problem for the entire family. State your reasons why you feel the way you do and talk to your spouse about them. Being constantly critical of your in-laws and not offering a resolution to fix the problem is unhealthy for your marriage. Ask yourself, do I have valid points or am I just wanting to complain about my in-laws?

Next week we will continue with our series The Power of Your Words Give Life or Death. Learn how to be uplifting to those in need with positive affirmation words. A single encouraging word can change a person’s life forever.

Do you need help in how to use uplifting words to those you know and you’re a negative person? Do you want to know how to respond to those who keep speaking negative words over you? Are hurting over a past relationship that someone said things that you still can’t get out of your mind? Do you need to move forward in your life but your still stuck with painful memories of what someone said to you or about you? If you answered yes to any of these questions give Dr. Mike a call and he can help you sort things out!

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and Life Coaching Services. His services are affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your own home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone 303.456.0555 or via Skype at drmike45. If you’re interested skyping with Dr. Mike send him an e-mail and let him know who you are and your skype name. The convenience of this type of coaching is the most effective means of Life counseling and life coaching. We come to you when you need us most.

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The Power of Your Words Give Life or Death (4) By Dr. Michael Brooks

The Power of Your Words Give Life or Death (4) By Dr. Michael Brooks

I can remember when I was 5 years old getting into big trouble with my parents. I found my mom’s scissors and started to cut my own hair. There was several bald spots and hair all over the bathroom sink. After cutting my hair I found a tube of red lipstick in the bathroom and decided that I wanted to look like a clown and made big red circles on my cheeks and chin. I then added the red nose for good measure. I was supposed to be watched by my older brother Bob who decided he wanted to go to a friend’s house. My mom and dad walked in the door and my mom screamed in horror when she saw me. “Where’s your older brother she asked?” I looked at her and said “I don’t know.” My dad was trying to keep a straight face, but looked sternly at me. My mom walked back into the living room and reminded me that tomorrow was the day I was supposed to have my school pictures taken.

Just Stop It

Just Stop It

I suppose that my mom and dad could have just lost it and spanked me. They didn’t…I sat and listened to my dad telling me that the scissors were dangerous and was told that I should ask permission to use them next time. My mom was very understanding and tried to clean me up from the lipstick. I’m sure some of you are wondering about the school pictures. I went and had them taken…in the picture you can still see the faint outlines of circles on my cheeks and chin and a very faint red nose. And the hair, well that couldn’t be hidden very well. It’s out there for everyone to see.

Now teenagers are a different breed of how words are taken. You have to be careful in how you say things to them. They can be sensitive and take things you say the wrong way. I have seen some terrific teenagers with incredible attitudes. I think parents have a lot of control in how their kids respond to things said to them. If you’re constantly berating your kids I’m afraid that the lack of respect you want from your teenagers is going to be lacking. Kids need someone who will sit down and talk things out with them. Not hearing how stupid, dumb, or childish they act. That will not work in helping kids during their difficult teen years. Be supportive and understanding.
My tips for speaking words of life over your teenagers:

• Ask them to sit down with you when you don’t understand why they do some of the things they do
• Be careful when angry and hold back on what you say to your kids, think about what you’re about to say. You can’t take back words spoken out of anger
• Avoid words such as stupid, dummy, idiot, no good, these promote negative feeling and lack of self-worth
• Try understanding where you child is coming from and talk about their needs, feelings, wants
• If you’re angry with your kids, by all means share why your angry without yelling, screaming, swearing. Be under control at all times.
• Take a timeout for yourself if needed, walk away and think about how you need to regain control and share why your upset.

Next week we will continue with our series The Power of Your Words Give Life or Death. Learn how to be uplifting to those in need with positive affirmation words. A single encouraging word can change a person’s life forever.

Do you need help in how to use uplifting words to those you know and you’re a negative person? Do you want to know how to respond to those who keep speaking negative words over you? Are hurting over a past relationship that someone said things that you still can’t get out of your mind? Do you need to move forward in your life but your still stuck with painful memories of what someone said to you or about you? If you answered yes to any of these questions give Dr. Mike a call and he can help you sort things out!

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and Life Coaching Services. His services are affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your own home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone 303.456.0555 or via Skype at drmike45. If you’re interested skyping with Dr. Mike send him an e-mail and let him know who you are and your skype name. The convenience of this type of coaching is the most effective means of Life counseling and life coaching. We come to you when you need us most.

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The Power of Your Words Give Life or Death (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

The Power of Your Words Give Life or Death (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week I will be giving you some tips that will help you understand why your words make can make a big impact on someone that may be down and struggling with personal issues. It’s pretty easy to avoid that someone you know that is always down. They keep struggling with life itself and can’t seem to get out of the hole they dug for themselves.

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When you say things that are meant to hurt others “You have a problem” that must get help!

I always try to be uplifting and upbeat with everyone I meet. I noticed one day an old friend who was walking by my house. He seemed out of it and staring at the sidewalk as he moved down the street. I called out to him and walked over and talked with him. At first he seemed distant but then started to open up as we spoke. I invited him in for a soda and we talked for a few hours. I heard about his struggles, job loss, failed marriage. I just listened and when he was finished I told him how valuable he was to me and how I appreciated his friendship. I told him that he was loved by many and how he added value to their lives. I spoke the truth to him in a very positive way. Did I make a difference by speaking words of life into this broken man’s world? Read on…

I received a note from this man taped to my door. “Dear Mike, I want to thank you for taking the time to sit down and talk with me. Your encouraging words saved my life. I was on my way home to kill myself when you stopped me and listened to my world of hurt. Had you not walked over and spoke with me I was ready to end it all. Thank you for reaching out to me with your kind words they saved my life.”

Realize what you say to others in your life does make a difference. Don’t be afraid to reach out and say good things to people in need. You may never know who these people are but your words of encouragement breathe life into someone’s broken world.

• When you’re angry avoid speaking negative words
• Avoid confrontational conversations that create harsh words
• Speak truthfully but with compassion and understanding
• If you don’t have anything nice to say keep to yourself
• Be an encourager and know the words you speak can discourage or encourage people
• The words you use can change a person’s way they feel about themselves
• Once you speak and the critical words are out there you can’t take them back
• Constant criticism deflates a persons self-worth
• Be known as an encourager to your sphere of influence
• Ask the person that you’re speaking to if they understand your point of view
• Try being positive when speaking to children or teenagers
• Reach out to people who need encouraging words

These are simple tips that work and will help you speak life into the people’s lives that you are involved with. We have so many negative and critical people in our lives today that we can’t buy into their way of thinking. A kind word goes a long way in today’s world.

I think parents need to be less critical with their children and expose them to encouraging and uplifting words. I know how easy it is when parents get frustrated with their kids and start blasting away with angry words. We’ve all been there but the damage it causes can be devastating to our young children. If you feel that you’re starting to go down the road of condescending rhetoric then take a time out for yourself and rely on the game plan that you put together. This will head off the regrets of saying unpleasant words to your children. We know that our kids know how to push our buttons, but don’t allow them to do it. Speak life into your kids with encouraging words not harsh ones.

We have to remember that kids make plenty of mistakes growing up and to be understanding about that. I would love to see parents who sit down with their children and explain why mistakes should be learning lessons and not a time to be harsh and critical with them. Patience is very important when teaching our kids the right way to do things.

Next week we will continue with our series The Power of Your Words Give Life or Death. Learn how to be uplifting to those in need with positive affirmation words. A single encouraging word can change a person’s life forever.

Do you need help in how to use uplifting words to those you know and you’re a negative person? Do you want to know how to respond to those who keep speaking negative words over you? Are hurting over a past relationship that someone said things that you still can’t get out of your mind? Do you need to move forward in your life but your still stuck with painful memories of what someone said to you or about you? If you answered yes to any of these questions give Dr. Mike a call and he can help you sort things out!

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and Life Coaching Services. His services are affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your own home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone 303.456.0555 or via Skype at drmike45. If you’re interested skyping with Dr. Mike send him an e-mail and let him know who you are and your skype name. The convenience of this type of coaching is the most effective means of Life counseling and life coaching. We come to you when you need us most.

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The Power of Your Words Give Life or Death (2) By Dr. Michael Brooks

The Power of Your Words Give Life or Death (2) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Have guidelines set in place, when you have that face to face meeting you will get to the heart of the matter without using hurting words to put your spouse down to prove a point. I believe that uplifting and encouraging words get much better results than your negative and condescending words. Keep in mind how you like to be spoken to. Most of us would rather be talked to in a civil and respectful manner. Always keep in mind that you have to be in control in what you say to someone or how you should respond to them.

There is always hope is you're willing to try to save your marriage!

There is always hope is you’re willing to try to save your marriage!

I had a friend of mine who wanted his wife to learn how to shoot a handgun. They went to a shooting range so she could learn the basics of target shooting. I watched as he worked with her. He was getting frustrated by the minute as he tried to teach her to shoot a 22 pistol. He was being negative in his words and very condescending towards her. He said to her “our 10 year old son could figure this out, why can’t you?” this isn’t that hard he scolded her. She was extremely frustrated and said that she just wanted to go home. He was at his wits end. The range master heard what was going on and walked over to my friend and asked if he could help her. My buddy said “certainly, you’ll have no better luck then I did.”

I have to say the range master spoke encouraging words and worked with her step by step and she responded very well to his way of saying things to her. He didn’t berate her or speak negatively to her. She actually did a great job and was very comfortable in the way he taught her to shoot. This made all the difference in the world the way she was spoken to. Remember the way you speak to the people in your life is important in the way they respond to you. If you’re speaking positive words and uplifting words to those people you interact with you can expect to be treated well. On the other hand if your words are critical or negative you can expect poor results in most of your expectations and communication with that person and lack of respect towards you.

I watched a mother playing with her Down syndrome daughter at a park one day. The child was about 6 or 7 years of age. The mother was laughing while trying to teach her daughter how to sing (Twinkle Twinkle Little Star) they both giggled, smiled and the mother never gave up. The daughter was enjoying the connection she had with her mother. Could you imagine if the mother was harsh towards the daughter while teaching her to learn this simple song? I would like to give you some of my tips on how impactful your words can be towards others in your life like your spouse, family, friends, and co-workers.
Next week we will continue with our series The Power of Your Words Give Life or Death. Learn how to be uplifting to those in need with positive affirmation words. A single encouraging word can change a person’s life forever.

Do you need help in how to use uplifting words to those you know and you’re a negative person? Do you want to know how to respond to those who keep speaking negative words over you? Are hurting over a past relationship that someone said things that you still can’t get out of your mind? Do you need to move forward in your life but your still stuck with painful memories of what someone said to you or about you? If you answered yes to any of these questions give Dr. Mike a call and he can help you sort things out!

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and Life Coaching Services. His services are affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your own home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone 303.456.0555 or via Skype at drmike45. If you’re interested skyping with Dr. Mike send him an e-mail and let him know who you are and your skype name. The convenience of this type of coaching is the most effective means of Life counseling and life coaching. We come to you when you need us most.

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