Facing Your Giants (4)
By Dr. Michael Brooks
This week we will continue facing your giants; look at what causes some of the giants you face. So my question for you today: what are the Giants you’re facing and want help and confront today? You may have one or several Giants that control you.
The giant of self-doubting is huge for many of us; how many of you have had this problem? I sure have, and on many levels. Many doubt that they are good enough for their spouses, their jobs, and their families. I often felt self-doubt in my sports career, I competed with many great athletes and was very hard on myself when playing against these guys. I had great expectations for myself in the weight room but often questioned my abilities on the field. I had one coach who believed in my on-the-field athletic abilities and would often recognize and compliment me in front of the team after we went into the locker room after a game. It was then that I realized the pressure that I was putting on myself was not necessary. The same went for other areas in my life relating to self-doubt. It’s hard to believe that a football coach helped me see through my self-doubt and trust in my athletic abilities and how that would translate in real life.
Often self-doubt is a feeling of uncertainty or distrust. Example: I had self-doubts about my athletic ability or doubting people’s words (many have said things that they do and never followed up with making things happen). It could be a point in which one is uncertain or skeptical about trusting people as well. This is a big giant for many people.
Loneliness is often described as sadness because one has no friends or company to be with. I often wonder how many people are lonely because it’s self-inflicted. They make no point in making friends and are perfectly ok with no friends whatsoever. How sad that must be; you don’t share holidays, birthdays, or special occasions. Some people avoid being around others; honestly, I don’t fault these people. It’s the way they want to live their lives. I had a client years ago who wanted to divorce her spouse. She didn’t want to be married any longer and decided to end the marriage of 25 years. She filed for divorce against the wishes of her husband. She packed up her belongings and moved out of state. This shocked the entire family; she wanted nothing to do with them. To this day, her kids have honored her wishes and know nothing about their mother. She refuses to contact any of her children.
I look at someone like this and their actions that have caused a great deal of heartache. So the question I often get is, how do you deal with loneliness if it is hard to make friends? This is where I suggest you learn how to reach out to others and get involved with their lives. Yes, it may be uncomfortable, but it is necessary to end the loneliness that you’re experiencing. Make a point to join social clubs, a gym, a book club, find a group at church, or join a professional association from work. There are ways to get involved. To end loneliness, you need to take the first step in making things happen. I know that this is a giant for many of you. If you’re lonely and need help in overcoming this, I can help you with that. Call me. Next week we will continue the article facing your giants and see if any of the giants you face are ones others face as well.
Do you need help in overcoming the giants of your past? Do you struggle with memories of broken relationships, illness, self-worth, and confidence? What are the giants that you currently face and need help in defeating them? Giants can be debilitating and keep you from enjoying life and successful life. Call Dr. Mike, and he can help you through the process of facing your giants head-on and help you to move forward with your life. Why live in a defeated and hurtful past when you can enjoy a stress-free present and future?
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