When I finally hit rock bottom with my health and career, there were times I wanted others to help me fix some of the problems that I created for myself. I wanted them to call bill collectors and tell them how sick I was and to leave me alone. Finally, I made the decision to take care of this myself and faced reality that it was I who was really in control. Remember, you do not have to stay at rock bottom. You have to take that first step and start climbing out.
In the early stages of regaining control of your life, avoid people who are making excuses for your stay at the bottom. Stay away from them! They can and will cause you to think in a negative way and encourage a perpetual “pity party.” Some of the excuses you may hear.
- It’s not your fault this happened.
- Wait till it blows over.
- Don’t do anything right now.
- This is no big deal…time will fix it.
- You bare no responsibility at all.
- If I were you, I would sue.
- Why worry? It’s really nothing to get upset about.
If there’s one thing I have learned over the years counseling, most people in this day and age don’t want to take responsibility for their actions. We are convinced it’s someone else’s fault and not ours. Well folks, that usually is not the case. If we messed up, then we should take ownership and responsibility and make things right. That is a big step in getting out of the bottom of the barrel. Yes it may be hard and your pride will need an adjustment once you come clean, but how you will feel afterwards is priceless.
I tell my clients who have been stranded at rock bottom that it’s time to move forward and time to realize that they’re in this mess because somehow they got pulled in. Maybe not because of any action on their part, but nevertheless, they are looking up from the bottom. The million dollar question is, “How does it feel down there? And are you ready to take the first step toward recovery?”
Do you wrestle with not knowing what to do when confronted by life’s struggles? Are you afraid to move forward because your past mistakes keep holding you back? Do you need help deciding your next steps to get out from rock bottom? If you answered yes to any of these questions then give Dr. Mike a call.
Peace of mind is so critical when getting out from the bottom of the barrel. You want to sleep better at night? Having a game plan will fix that, it helped me emotional, physically and spiritually. Are you willing to do what it takes to climb out of the barrel? If you are I can help you put a plan together to make it happen. Call Dr. Mike and schedule an appointment at 303.456.0555