Avoid the Wrong Kind of People (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks
In the course of our lives, I’m sure we have come across people that were not good or healthy for us. Some of these people would ultimately get us into trouble and cause pain for those around us. Possibly some people may have changed the course of our lives, and we still to this day, regret getting involved with them. Are there people who you avoid today? Remember that the wrong people will tend to drag us down with them. I have seen over the years many people follow the wrong crowd and have paid dearly with their marriages, their health, their integrity, and their families. For what reason but their pleasures? The pain of divorce continues until you get help! The pain from an unhealthy relationship isn’t worth the headaches it will cause you!
I had a friend of mine back in the fourth grade named Pete. This kid was a troublemaker, and I knew it. I was a shy kid who didn’t have many friends; we had just moved to the states from Germany. Pete was a bully, and kids were afraid of him. I saw Pete as someone who didn’t have a lot of friends as well. He often picked fights to show our classmates he ruled our fourth-grade class. One day he walked up to a physically challenged boy in our class and hit him for no reason at all, and started making fun of his disability. I knew right then, and there I wanted to have nothing to do with Pete. I avoided him whenever I could. One day Pete decided to start hitting me because I avoided him. Being a shy kid, he eventually stopped hitting me because I wouldn’t fight back. Even at that early age, I knew Pete was someone I should never hang around with; he was the wrong kind of person. Funny how I knew that as a kid.
Are there specific people you need to break off friendships with or avoid certain situations that could cause you to compromise your morals, ethics, or integrity? If you have a gut feeling about someone who isn’t good to have a friendship with, don’t! If you are listening to someone who wants you to compromise your integrity and wants you to be a part of it, run from that person as fast as you can!
I had a client many years ago who felt he needed to spice up his marital relations with his wife. So he, without asking her, subscribed to an adult channel so they both could watch it and get some ideas for their bedroom. She was appalled and forbid him to watch pornography in her presence. He thought his actions were innocent and let her know that she was a prude. His supposedly watching porn to help them in the bedroom became an addiction. He is now addicted to pornography, and both are divorced. She couldn’t deal with his addiction and felt emotionally cheated on. He kept telling her it was harmless and that she needed counseling. Pornography is one of the leading causes of divorce. Next week we will be covering dealing with gossip in your life.
Are you afraid to confront the wrong kind of people in your life? Are you involved in the wrong kind of relationship and need help getting out of it? Do you have friends who are involved with drugs and alcohol and want you to join them, and you can’t say NO? Would you like a plan that can help you eliminate the wrong kind of people in your life? If you answered yes to any of these questions, contact Dr. Mike for personal help and planning your next steps at 303.880.9878.
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