Facing Your Giants (5) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Facing Your Giants (5) By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week we will continue facing your giants, let’s look at what causes some of the giants you face. So my question for you today: what are the Giants that you’re facing and want help in confronting? You may have one or several Giants that control you.

Are you willing to fight for your marriage, if you are then get the help that you need, don’t wait!

Divorce/separation is a giant many will face at some time during their lifetime; whether you are in this process or a parent of an adult child who is going through a divorce or separation, this can be a big as a giant that you or your loved one will ever face. When someone doesn’t want a divorce, the pain that this causes will feel like death for those getting divorce papers served on them. I have many friends who have gone through a divorce and the stories I hear bring sadness and despair for many of them. How do you deal with this issue, well, I would suggest that you get marriage counseling ASAP. Don’t wait for the marriage to get better; get help immediately. There is no perfect time for counseling; get it now! I have had clients tell me that they’ll wait for the right time to mention getting counseling.

Sorry, just to inform you the longer you wait, the sooner your marriage will end. Issues need to be brought up and as uncomfortable as they may be, it is absolutely imperative to sit down and discuss your issues. Don’t think for a minute that avoiding talking about embarrassing issues you may have, will gain you some medal of marriage honors. It will simply destroy all levels of communication. You can’t fix what you don’t talk about. I know it can be really difficult to bring up topics such as intimacy, money, trust, but you need to be open and real about the issues you see and the ones you suspect that your spouse is dealing with. Honesty is the way to defeat your giant.

I can remember a friend of mine that got served divorce papers and had no idea that he was about to be served. His wife went and saw a divorce lawyer and filed for a divorce. He was shocked when he was served, he tried talking with her, and she would have none of it. He said he would go to counseling with her, talk with their pastor, he’d do whatever it took to save their marriage. She had her mind made up; it was over. His giant in his divorce was her refusing to explain what her reasons were for filing for divorce. It’s hard to repair a relationship when you’ve been kicked to the curb, and no communication whatsoever is coming from your spouse.

He came to find out that she was involved with another man and was sleeping with him. If they just communicated the problems before, probably this marriage could have been saved. I suggest that if you don’t want to face the giant of divorce you better take stock in what is being said and not being said. Be a good observer and read the signs before you; they will be obvious most likely. Listen well, ask questions, and communicate your feelings. This giant can be conquered if you’re willing to do the work. Divorce is not worth it, trust me on this. . Next week we will continue the article facing your giants, see if any of the giants you face are ones others face as well.

Do you need help in overcoming the giants of your past? Do you struggle with memories of broken relationships, illness, self-worth, confidence? What are the giants that you currently face and need help in defeating them? Giants can be debilitating and keep you from enjoying life and a successful life. Call Dr. Mike, and he can help you through the process of taking your giants head on and help you to move forward with your life. Why live in a defeated and hurtful past, when you can enjoy a stress-free present and future?

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous, and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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Facing Your Giants (4) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Facing Your Giants (4) By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week I will continue my article on, “Facing Your Giants”. Let’s look at what causes some of the giants you face in your everyday life. So my question for you today is, what are the Giants that you’re facing and want help and confront today? You may have one or several Giants that control the way you think and act.

The giant of self-doubting is huge for many of us, how many of you have had this problem? I sure have and on many levels. Many doubt that they are good enough for their spouses, their jobs, and families. I often felt self-doubt in my sports career, I competed with many great athletes, and was very hard on myself when playing against these guys. I had great expectations for myself in the weight room, but often questioned my abilities on the field. I had one coach who believed in, my in athletic abilities and would often recognize and compliment me in front of the team after we went into the locker room after a game. It was then that I realized the pressure that I was putting on myself was not necessary. The same went for other areas in my life relating to my self-doubt. Hard to believe that a football coach helped me see through my self-doubt and trust in my athletic abilities and how that would translate in real life.

Often self-doubt is a feeling of uncertainty or distrust. Example: I had self-doubts about my athletic ability, or doubting peoples words (many have said things that’d they do and never follow up with making things happen). It could be a point in which one is uncertain or skeptical about trusting people as well. This is a big giant for many people.

Loneliness is often described as a sadness because one has no friends or company to be with. I often wonder how many people are lonely because it’s self-inflicted. They make no point in making friends and are perfectly ok with no friends whatsoever. How sad that must be, you don’t share holidays, birthdays, special occasions. Some people just avoid being around others, and honestly I don’t fault these people it’s the way they want to live their lives. I had a client years ago who wanted to divorce her husband. She didn’t want to be married any longer and decided to end the marriage of 25 years. She filed for divorce against the wishes of her husband. She packed up all her belongings and moved out of state. This shocked the entire family and she wanted nothing to do with them. To this day her kids have honored her wishes and have nothing to do with their mother and don’t care if they ever hear anything about her. She refuses to reach out and contact any of her children.

I look at someone like this and their actions that have caused a great deal of heartache. So the question I often get is, how do you deal with loneliness if it is hard to make friends? This is where I suggest that you learn how to reach out to others and get involved in their lives. Yes, it may be uncomfortable, but it is necessary to end the loneliness that you’re experiencing. Make a point to join social clubs, a gym, book club, find a group at church, join a professional association from work. There are ways to get involved. To end loneliness you need to take the first step in making things happen. I know that this a giant for many of you. If you’re lonely and need help in overcoming this, I can help you with that. Call me. . Next week we will continue the article facing your giants, see if any of the giants you face are ones others face as well.

Do you need help in overcoming the giants of your past? Do you struggle with memories of broken relationships, illness, self-worth, confidence? What are the giants that you currently face and need help in defeating them? Giants can be debilitating and keep you from enjoying life and successful life. Call Dr. Mike and he can help you through the process of taking your giants head on and help you to move forward with your life. Why live in a defeated and hurtful past, when you can enjoy a stress-free present and future?

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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Facing Your Giants (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Facing Your Giants (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week we will continue facing your giants, look at what causes some of the giants you face. So my question for you today: what are the Giants that you’re facing and want help and confront today? You may have one or several Giants that control you.

Divorce is not for the faint at heart.

There is the fear of divorce, and separation. Less than half the marriages in the US will not survive and end up in divorce. Moving on with your life when considering a divorce can be devastating. I suggest that you sit down and look at your next steps in getting your life back from a bad marriage. I can tell you that it’s a difficult time during the process, but you will survive. You can contact Dr. Mike if you need help in figuring out what your next steps are.

Anxiety is normal and can be a healthy emotion. But when a person on a regular basis feels different levels of anxiety, this may be a medical disorder and needs to be addressed. Anxiety disorders need a mental health diagnoses, concerns that often lead to excessive nervousness, fear, apprehension, and worry. We all experience a degree of anxiety, when asking your boss for a raise, or asking your significant other to marry you, I believe those are healthy levels of anxiety. So, what are the ways I can deal with my symptoms of anxiety? Ask yourself why am I so anxious? Look at what is causing the feeling of being anxious. Take a deep breath and try to relax, start your positive self-talk to yourself, think about positive locations where you feel safe, beaches, forests, lakes, and why you feel safe there. My big question to ask yourself, are you in control of your brain or is your brain in control of you?

I can remember when taking a big Physiology of exercise exam in college, how anxious I was. I studied for days and nights, this exam was the big test to get you into the next level of your degree program. I was not sleeping, I joined study groups, I had Q-cards I used when eating meals, and at work. I was working myself into “I will not pass this test,” no matter how hard I worked at passing this major exam.” The finally arrived and a million thoughts raced through my head, as I sat at my desk and waited for the test to be placed in my hands a still small voice started talking to me. You’ve got this, you have worked so hard and spent countless hours preparing for this very exam. I agreed with what my mind was telling me. A calmness took over and I looked at the test, and started taking it. Midway through this exam, my self-talk reminded me, “see you’re worrying over nothing, no reason to get anxious.” I talked myself into using facts about how much time I put into studying and all the hard work I did. Believe me that helped. I looked at the facts, my efforts in reading, analyzing data. I overcame my anxiety. That was one of my biggest giants!  . Next week we will continue the article facing your giants, see if any of the giants you face are ones others face as well.

Do you need help in overcoming the giants of your past? Do you struggle with memories of broken relationships, illness, self-worth, confidence? What are the giants that you currently face and need help in defeating them? Giants can be debilitating and keep you from enjoying life and successful life. Call Dr. Mike and he can help you through the process of taking your giants head on and help you to move forward with your life. Why live in a defeated and hurtful past, when you can enjoy a stress-free present and future?

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

 

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Facing Your Giants (2) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Facing Your Giants (2) By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week we will continue facing your giants, let’s look at what causes some of the giants you face. So my question for you today is: what are the Giants that you’re facing and want help to confront today? You may have one or several Giants that control you. I will share with you one of my Giants and that is Abandonment. I was raised in a military family and we moved all over the world. We never stayed in one place very long and it was rare that you would make any real friends because you’d soon move to another base. My parents were always at officers parties in the evening, my sister and I were dropped off at the baby sitters on the base. As soon as my sister and I found out that another night was going to be spent at the baby sitters, I would beg to not to go. Heck, I was only six years old and remembered so well feeling abandoned by my mom and dad. That was a painful childhood memory and stayed with me until I finally dealt with the problem. So, I sit back and reminisce and ask myself, what are the Giants I have stored in the back of my mind and want to get rid of? I know I needed help and wanted to have a clear conscience. So what are your giants and what are your next steps to deal with them?

Giants can be huge obstacles if we allow them to dominate our lives, what giants do you face?

I will cover the ones that I know personally and have help my clients deal with on a one on one counseling/coaching session. If you relate to any of these and you want to come to some resolution in eliminating them, let’s talk. I have some great idea’s on how to resolve them. Don’t let your Giants hold you back from becoming all that you can be or do. Let’s look at these Giants and how to deal with them.

Fear, what are you fearful of? Fear can hold you back in many ways. It can prevent you from moving forward in your family, life, and work. Here is a definition of fear: an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat. Fear has many names and strikes many of us at all levels. The fear of death is very real for most people, especially people over the age of 60 years old. When I talk to people about death, I ask them what is their biggest fear, believe it or not, dying alone! I am a pretty positive person and I ask them about family and friends, do they have close people in their lives? Then I ask them about their health, are they exercising and eating right? I give them a talk about how they can improve their health by living a healthy lifestyle. Fear can be looked at in a logical way and solutions can be found, if only you focus on finding answers. . Next week we will continue the article facing your giants, see if any of the giants you face are ones others face as well.

Do you need help in overcoming the giants of your past? Do you struggle with memories of broken relationships, illness, self-worth, confidence? What are the giants that you currently face and need help in defeating them? Giants can be debilitating and keep you from enjoying life and successful life. Call Dr. Mike and he can help you through the process of taking your giants head on and help you to move forward with your life. Why live in a defeated and hurtful past, when you can enjoy a stress-free present and future?

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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Facing Your Giants (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Facing Your Giants (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks

As I was walking out of the grocery store to put my grocery cart away, I turned and suddenly stood face to face with the old town gossip just two feet away. I and many others have been talked about by this woman in our small community. My mind raced as I looked at her and as she stared at me. I froze, I wanted to tell her off, yet my mouth prevented me from exposing the town gossip. I would have enjoyed doing this, but couldn’t bring myself to be like this woman. Why? I had every reason to let loose on her, right? I mean, she had attacked me and lied and gossiped.

I know others have been hurt by her gossip, why not just expose her and humiliate her at the only grocery store in town? The giant that I faced in this situation was (uncertainty) what would have happened if I did such a thing? I would have stooped to her level and probably paid the price for it. I decided to keep the peace. When we face our giants we must look at them logically and then proceed. In this next series of articles we will look at some of the giants we all face and how to deal with them.

What are the Giants that you currently face and which ones hold you back from enjoying everyday life? We all have those giants staring us in the face every day, and we most likely avoid dealing with them and wish they’d just go away. Many we’ve kept hidden for years only to find that they have robbed us from enjoying life and being happy.

Many of these Giants have been in our heads as far back as we can remember. For many of us since we were children and some as adults. Think about this for a minute, what are these Giants that you are holding on to and want to let go of today? What are the names of these Giants that grip you and cause you to hide in your emotional closet? There are many Giants that we have hidden and tucked away in our minds until we are forced in dealing with them. Either we recoil and run away from them or face them and cower in silence and look the other way. Next week we will continue the article facing your giants, see if any of the giants you face are ones others face as well.

Do you need help in overcoming the giants of your past? Do you struggle with memories of broken relationships, illness, self-worth, confidence? What are the giants that you currently face and need help in defeating them? Giants can be debilitating and keep you from enjoying life and successful life. Call Dr. Mike and he can help you through the process of taking your giants head on and help you to move forward with your life. Why live in a defeated and hurtful past, when you can enjoy a stress-free present and future?

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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Are You Addicted to Facebook? (6) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Are You Addicted to Facebook? (6)  By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week we will continue with “Are You Addicted to Facebook”, there will be tips on how to take action and make changes in your life and avoid the pitfalls of addiction to Facebook.

Facebook contributes to internet addiction and cheating concept, are you addicted?

If you’re looking to spend less time on Facebook then have a plan to make that happen. Make it difficult to be on Facebook. Find other things you can do besides being on Facebook, start reading interesting books, take up a new hobby, enroll in an online college class, write a book, but keep busy in your spare time so you’re not tempted to get on Facebook. You need to control what you do with your extra time, don’t let your brain control you and talk you into going to Facebook. Remember that Facebook cannot be a real family to you, you need real people in your life.

I have had several great experiences with Facebook I want to share a few with you. I have met several people who needed encouragement and have been there for them. When I spoke with some of of these folks, I would hear how their lives changed because of the counseling I gave them. I read posts on my page and I can tell when someone is hurting. I reach out to them and let them know that they are loved and I’m here to help them.

I had one woman ask me questions about finding her way back to God. She had been involved in the church and walked away after her husband had an affair. She wandered for several years in and out of hurtful relationships. Her heart had been broken several times by different men, she was searching for love. She shared with me the many broken promises that were made by these different men. She couldn’t trust men and suffered from depression and hopelessness. She joined Facebook just to see what it was, when she stumbled on my Facebook page. She liked my encouraging posts and sent a friend request. One day she texted me asking for books that could lead her back to God. I suggested a few and she read them and started to ask questions. We spoke on the phone several times over the course of a year and she was feeling the need to connect with God again. Once she made that recommitment her life turned around. She woke up in the morning with a purpose and new joy for living again. She reunited with her two adult children and got to meet her grandbabies. Life was good for her.

She had health issues, and they were beginning to take their toll on her. I received a call from her when she was taken to the hospital. We spoke several times during her stay at the hospital. I could always get a laugh out of her even when she was struggling with her health. Several times she thanked me for being there for her.

One day while shopping at a department store I received a call, I looked at who was calling and it was my friend in the hospital. I answered and said Hi Joyce, how are you doing? There was a pause and a man responded, he said he was her son and wanted to let me know his mother passed away. He said that his mom was so happy that she connected with me on Facebook, and that I spend time with her when her adult children couldn’t. He went on to say, what a great friend I was to his mom in her time of need. He thanked me over and over again for being there for her!

There are many opportunities to reach out to hurting people on Facebook, your job is not to fix them, but to listen and encourage them. You need to have a heart for the broken, lonely, and discouraged people on Facebook.

There are benefits to having friends on Facebook, I have several that I look forward to talking with on Facebook and talking with them on the phone as wellhealth issues, searching for love,. I use Facebook for helping others through difficult times. So, if you feel that your addicted to Facebook or are not sure, ask yourself these questions. Do I spend to much time on Facebook during the day? Do I have to keep building my friends list to prove I’m popular? Do I have facebook on my cell phone while eating meals? Do I wake up and go to bed with checking my Facebook page? Do I need help with my addiction to Facebook? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878 if you need help.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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Are You Addicted to Facebook? (5) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Are You Addicted to Facebook? (5)  By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week we will continue with “Are You Addicted to Facebook”, there will be tips on how to take action and make changes in your life and avoid the pitfalls of addiction to Facebook.

Can you stay off Facebook for a period of time? This is a tough question and can you really take time away from Facebook? If you’re addicted this will be near impossible task for you to do. So, let’s say you’re willing to give this a try. Let’s see if you can take a break for one week. Let your friends know that you’ll be away from Facebook for a one week period. Then step away and let’s see what happens. Try not to peek and see what’s going on Facebook, stay away. This will probably open some peoples eyes and expose the addiction they have to Facebook.

Don’t let Facebook control your emotions!

How can I have a better experience on Facebook without all the drama? I want to avoid getting involved with unhealthy people on Facebook, so what do you suggest? I suggest that you look carefully at your Facebook profile and see if it’s honest and accurate. If it isn’t, then make honest changes and stay true to your updated and honest profile and don’t make any more changes. If you are constantly changing and updating your profile, then it shows that you’re worried about your Facebook image.

How many friends are enough for you? I have seen people with 5,000 friends and I often wonder, how do they ever keep up with so many Facebook friends? It seems like an ego issue. Why bother having so many friends. I have plenty of friends on facebook and most of them like my encouraging words I have for them. I add fun outdoor events that I attend for the family and for someone just wanting to enjoy the outdoors. I post short devotionals that are uplifting and help those hurting or need something to start their day off on the right foot. Many of my followers share my posts that offer insights on how to be a better person. I don’t post political or radical insights. I think it best to avoid these kinds of temptations. Some of my friends love to do battle with their political positions.

If you think that having thousands of friends on facebook makes you popular, think again. I’d bet most of you who have thousands of friends hardly know most of these people. Self-worth should not be dependant on how many friends you have on Facebook, if it is, this is a dangerous road to be on. If you’re struggling with other addictions it can complicate those addictions with a false sense of security. Resist the urge to keep adding people you don’t know on your friend’s list. If you don’t know them or know very little about them, avoid that pitfall of adding people you don’t know to new a friends list.

Next week, I will continue with “Are You Addicted to Facebook? There will be some tips on how to deal with addictions to Facebook and what to look for in those who you feel have a problem with facebook.

There are benefits to having friends on Facebook, I have several that I look forward to talking with on Facebook and talking with them on the phone. I use Facebook for helping others through difficult times. So, if you feel that your addicted to Facebook or are not sure, ask yourself these questions. Do I spend to much time on Facebook during the day? Do I have to keep building my friends list to prove I’m popular? Do I have facebook on my cell phone while eating meals? Do I wake up and go to bed with checking my Facebook page? Do I need help with my addiction to Facebook? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878 if you need help.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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Are You Addicted to Facebook? (4) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Are You Addicted to Facebook? (4)  By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week we will continue with “Are You Addicted to Facebook”, there will be tips on how to take action and make changes in your life and avoid the pitfalls of addiction to Facebook.

Don’t let Facebook control your life!

I would like you to make twenty-four boxes on a sheet of paper, each square represents one hour during a twenty-four hour day. Record what you’re doing for each hour that you’re on Facebook for one week. Be accurate on what you write down, honesty is key to making this work. I want you to write down the following things you do on Facebook.

  • How many times a day do you log-in or are on Facebook?
  • How much time do you spend wandering through Facebook posts? Are You looking at new FB friend requests? Are you reading up on what your friends are doing? Do you spend hours looking for a conversation that you can post on.
  • Do you respond to pokes or looking at your friend’s updates on their profiles? Do you read history stories, take trivia tests or do you listen to all kinds of music? Do you need Facebook birthday wishes from your Facebook friends to make your day?
  • Do you love reading about peoples drama on their posts? Do you follow this person posts and see what other people are saying in response? Do you get upset if you don’t like what someone said about one of your Facebook friends? Do you take personally some of the things directed at you in a heated discussion.
  • When accepting a friend request, how much do you really know about the person asking for the request? Do they add value and enrich your life on Facebook? Are you using high profile friends to attract other Facebook friends requests?

What attracts you to Facebook and why are you using Facebook? Whenever I talk with clients, I ask them do you have a set of boundaries when using Facebook? What time limits do you put on yourself when on Facebook? Are you using Facebook for leads for your job or company you work for? Do you check out people’s profiles and make sure that your new friend’s requests are good and healthy people for you? There needs to be a value for you when making new friends on Facebook. What do you get out of Facebook? Here are some thoughts I have:

  • Does Facebook give you a better quality of life?
  • Do you enjoy spending time on Facebook?
  • Do you have time to make new friends and keep connected with them?
  • Are you comfortable asking new friends personal questions about family, jobs everyday questions?
  • Does Facebook improve your relationship with others and help you with your own professional life.

There are benefits to having friends on Facebook, I have several that I look forward to talking with on Facebook and talking with them on the phone. I use Facebook for helping others through difficult times. So, if you feel that your addicted to Facebook or are not sure, ask yourself these questions. Do I spend to much time on Facebook during the day? Do I have to keep building my friends list to prove I’m popular? Do I have facebook on my cell phone while eating meals? Do I wake up and go to bed with checking my Facebook page? Do I need help with my addiction to Facebook? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878 if you need help.

Next week, I will continue with “Are You Addicted to Facebook? There will be some tips on how to deal with addictions to Facebook and what to look for in those who you feel have a problem with facebook.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

 

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Are You Addicted to Facebook? (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Are You Addicted to Facebook? (3)  By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week we will continue with “Are You Addicted to Facebook”, I will provide tips on how to take action and make changes in your life to avoid the pitfalls of addiction to Facebook.

Do you have many friends on Facebook but you’re still lonely and feel abandoned by friends in your sphere of influence? Is your personal life a struggle, and you just don’t fit into any group of friends? Have you found one or more Facebook friends and believe they are your best friends? On Facebook do you pretend to be someone that you’re not?

Does Facebook interrupt your sleeping patterns, you go to bed at a certain time and a friend texts you from Facebook and you spend hours at texting them, knowing you have to get up early for work. Do you make up excuses to stay up late at night to fill a need for feeling important.

Many will look at Facebook late at night while others are sleeping. Your addiction??

Now ask yourself this question, why am I on Facebook? Why do I spend so many hours talking to strangers I don’t even know a thing about and I am now calling them my close friends? Do I ask them personal questions about their lives, or ask them about family or about their work? If you’re just trying to fill your list of how many friends you have by the numbers of friends you have on Facebook, then I think there is a problem. Ask yourself, what am I getting out of Facebook that helps me as a person, that helps me to be a better person than I a?. How am I enriching others by what I post? Do I truly care about the people I have as friends? Do I respond to some of the needs they have? Do I encourage them when they are hurting? Do I respect the people on my friend’s list?

Do you want to do a reality check with the amount of time that you spend on facebook? Do you care about Facebook interfering with your family time, or the time you are at work? If you are, I want you to do something that will require some time and effort. This will be a self-evaluation on how many hours you’re on Facebook. For some it will open your eyes, and others..they may not even care!

Next week, I will continue with “Are You Addicted to Facebook? There will be some tips on how to deal with addictions to Facebook and what to look for in those who you feel have a problem with facebook.

There are benefits to having friends on Facebook, I have several that I look forward to talking with on Facebook and talking with them on the phone. I use Facebook for helping others through difficult times. So, if you feel that your addicted to Facebook or are not sure, ask yourself these questions. Do I spend to much time on Facebook during the day? Do I have to keep building my friends list to prove I’m popular? Do I have facebook on my cell phone while eating meals? Do I wake up and go to bed with checking my Facebook page? Do I need help with my addiction to Facebook? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878 if you need help.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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Are You Addicted to Facebook? (2) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Are You Addicted to Facebook? (2)  By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week we will continue with “Are You Addicted to Facebook”, there will be tips on how to take action and make changes in your life and avoid the pitfalls of addiction to Facebook.

Here are some of my tips in recognizing if you have a Facebook addition (FA).

You wake up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom, you take your cell phone to the bathroom with you and check your Facebook status, you read your posts to see if someone has commented or liked one of them. You look for New Friend requests and approve or disapprove these requests, after reading their profiles.

Do you wake up in the middle of the night top check your FaceBook account?

Do you constantly check your facebook page while eating your meals, or while you’re at work? Does Facebook fill the dead time during your day? Does it thrill you when you see that people like your posts? When you’re in a work-related meeting are you’re thinking about the person you need to respond to on Facebook? You can’t seem to focus on school or the job because you feel that you’re being left out on a Facebook conversation you started.

Let’s say you forget and leave your phone at home, can you concentrate on your work? Do you have to have your cell phone with you at all times and if you don’t, would you suffer from withdrawal by not having your cellphone. Do you take risks at work using your company computer just to get on facebook because your cell phone is not with you? Do you keep thinking about the conversations with your Facebook friends and missing friendsupdates that you read from your Facebook friends?

Checking your Facebook account every hour is a sign that you are addicted to Facebook. You can’t stop thinking about what you’re missing on Facebook. You forget to do work related jobs, and make excuses why you couldn’t get those jobs done. Most of your day is think about Facebook and the friends you have on Facebook.

Are you are constantly looking for old friendships from the past, old boyfriends or girlfriends that you dated in high school or college? You fantasize about the what-if, what should be, shoulda, woulda, could be. Do you keep living in the past and seldom leave the past behind you? Do you think about the good old times you had with friends, and you stay stuck and can’t move on? Do you wake up at night thinking about finding these old loves on Facebook? Do you ask old friends if they know where your old flame is and what they are doing today? Do you have no second thoughts about sharing old secrets from a former love? Simply put, if you answered yes to these questions, “You’re stuck in the past.” This is one symptom that you should get help ASAP.

Next week, I will continue with “Are You Addicted to Facebook? There will be some tips on how to deal with addictions to Facebook and what to look for in those who you feel have a problem with facebook.

There are benefits to having friends on Facebook, I have several that I look forward to talking with on Facebook and talking with them on the phone. I use Facebook for helping others through difficult times. So, if you feel that your addicted to Facebook or are not sure, ask yourself these questions. Do I spend to much time on Facebook during the day? Do I have to keep building my friends list to prove I’m popular? Do I have facebook on my cell phone while eating meals? Do I wake up and go to bed with checking my Facebook page? Do I need help with my addiction to Facebook? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878 if you need help.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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