The Seven Sins of Marital Discourse (Conclusion) By Dr. Michael Brooks

The Seven Sins of Marital Discourse (Conclusion) By Dr. Michael Brooks

In conclusion on my list of Seven Sins of Marital Discourse, many have to ask themselves “have I given up on the marriage” mentality. If you’re in a hopeless marriage, you need to ask yourself several questions. Have I given it my all? Have you sought counseling, coaching advice? Have you talked to your Pastor, Priest or Rabbi about your marriage problems? Many marriages can be saved, although, with a lot of hard work, it can be done.

Ending your marriage is the last step for many individuals, it takes a lot of thought, lots of counseling and grit to get through the process. It’s not easy for sure. There is heartbreak, regrets, shoulda, woulda, coulda, what if’s that will race through your mind. If you’re divorcing because of an affair, I would take a deep hard look at that. Especially if children are involved. Running away from your bad marriage without getting help will haunt you probably for a lifetime. I see many people that look back and wonder why they divorced their spouse. They beat themselves up for breaking up the family.

Case in point, a client of mine several years back had the life of luxury, the big house, fancy car, big bank account, and a husband that did very well in his job. They had two children and were very connected socially. She had it all. Then a young man caught her fancy, and she started fooling around on her husband. I saw the damage that this did to my clients family. The kids were totally screwed up from an absent mother and a single dad. She moved out with this man and never looked back. I saw her a few years later with a different guy. We spoke briefly, and I’ll never forget her words, I wish I never cheated on my husband, I had everything a wife, mother, and woman could want. I lost everything she said. Once the trust is gone, it’s hard to recover that. Keep trust in your relationship by being open with each other.

In closing, it’s best to recognize the struggles you face and face them head-on, don’t avoid them. So many couples need help, and it’s ok to ask for counseling. I often wonder how many marriages could be saved, if they both agreed to get help?

Do you feel frustrated about your failing marriage or relationship? Do you need help in saving your marriage and family from divorce? Do you have a spouse or partner who isn’t communicating with you and you want it restored? Do you want help in learning good communication skills? Are you the partner who wants to end your relationship because it’s unhealthy? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need help.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

 

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The Seven Sins of Marital Discourse (7) By Dr. Michael Brooks

The Seven Sins of Marital Discourse (7) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Number six on my list of Seven Sins of Marital Discourse is Trusting each other. How many of you have heard stories about friends of yours or even family members having affairs that ended in a divorce? We all have, and what happens to couples when the trust factor is lost, everything shuts down. The marriage is in deep trouble, most likely without counseling the marriage will end. The family breaks apart, and the kids are the lost souls in the big picture. Trust is the foundation for solid and healthy relationships; if that is lacking, then you can imagine what’s in store for the future.

Trust in marriage is key for survival, learn to communicate

Trust starts with open and honest communication. If there are issues that you may be uncomfortable with then address the problem. For example, if your spouse seems to be working several evenings a week and has late hours, that needs to be talked about by you. Don’t let it upset you and avoiding talking about it will not solve anything, sit down and speak your mind, get it out in the open. I see many individuals in my office and speak to a lot of people that have many issues with trusting their spouse. What are these trust issues that men and women deal with, well, here’s my bullet point list on trust issues in many marriages?

  • Working late hours
  • Always on their cell phone and can be heard whispering to someone
  • Unaccounted expenses at restaurants and hotels
  • Buying new clothes, new undergarments
  • Starts wearing aftershave or perfume
  • Unplanned weekend errands that normally never occurred before
  • Increased alcohol consumption

These are just a few, but beware of these changes. Trust can be earned back if lost, but it’s a long road ahead of you. So, if there are trust issues, deal with them immediately, don’t wait and do nothing. These feelings will make you ill until they are dealt with.

Do you feel frustrated about your failing marriage or relationship? Do you need help in saving your marriage and family from divorce? Do you have a spouse or partner who isn’t communicating with you and you want it restored? Do you want help in learning good communication skills? Are you the partner who wants to end your relationship because it’s unhealthy? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need help.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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The Seven Sins of Marital Discourse (6) By Dr. Michael Brooks

The Seven Sins of Martial Discourse (6) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Number five on my list of Seven Sins of Martial Discourse is lack of Financial Accountability. This is a big one for most couples. Men and women, for the most part, differ on this. I think most women are geared for watching the finances carefully and spending wisely. Many divorces have been attributed to financial woes, and it happens at all levels of  poor and rich marriages. You have couples that overspend and buy things that they in no way can afford. I had a client who needed a car, he and his wife went to a dealership and looked at all kinds of vehicles. They didn’t go in with a budget; they looked for something that only the Jones could afford. He told me that they looked at an SUV valued at $75,000. He said she really wanted it for show only to make the neighbors envious. He was emotionally sick when she picked it out. The salesman went to see if they would qualify for the SUV. He told me that they waited in his office for what seemed over 30 minutes. The guy came back and said the payments would be over $750 a month. There was no way they could get a loan for that amount and they couldn’t afford it. The salesman could see the panic in my client’s eyes and helped explain that this type of SUV would be expensive to repair if they had any mechanical issues. She was so reckless with their finances; they ended up getting divorced.

Make a budget together, plan for expenses and unknown expenses.

Make a budget together, plan for expenses and unknown expenses. It takes both of you to make this work, at least be in the know of where your money is going and what bills have to be paid. I suggest starting a savings account. Just put something into it every paycheck you receive. Have a TLA (Talk, Listen and Action) meeting monthly. Go over your finances, projected expenses, savings and you’ll see that this cuts down on arguments. Communicate well on your finances; it will save you grief down the road.

Do you trust your spouse, do you talk openly about the needs and desire that you may have personally and in your marriage. Trust is a big factor in keeping your marriage healthy and in good shape.

Do you feel frustrated about your failing marriage or relationship? Do you need help in saving your marriage and family from divorce? Do you have a spouse or partner who isn’t communicating with you and you want it restored? Do you want help in learning good communication skills? Are you the partner who wants to end your relationship because it’s unhealthy? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need help.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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The Seven Sins of Marital Discourse (5) By Dr. Michael Brooks

The Seven Sins of Marital Discourse (5) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Number four on my list of Seven Sins of Martial Discourse is Lack of intimacy, ahhh yes, this is a very sensitive subject for both men and women. It amazes me how many couples have lost interest in having an intimate relationship. There are reasons why couples can’t connect in this area they’re: medical, emotional, and physical reasons. As people age, they tend to lose interest in physical intimacy. The hormones aren’t what they used to be. If you have a physical condition that prevents you from having a physical relationship, then you have to have other ways to connect. I suggest that you connect on the emotional level. Have long talks, share your thoughts and dreams. Watch movies, take trips together. There is so much to do and not necessarily centered around the physical aspect of your relationship. In many of the counseling sessions that I do, I find it’s split right down the middle for men and women who want physical intimacy and those who do not.

Couples connect both physically and emotionally. Which are you? If you have physical limitations, go see your medical doctor. Usually, they can help you with medications and may have other idea’s. ED is a common issue for men and seeing a medical doctor can help you. This is a problem that is easily treatable. This is an issue (physical intimacy) that cannot be forced on your spouse. Many affairs are started by a spouse who hasn’t had a spouse interested in sex. I caution you to seek counseling immediately if this is becoming an issue, don’t avoid talking about this. Avoid having an affair; it will destroy your relationship and family. Remember this; women are fulfilled emotionally first, then the physical intimacy comes next. For a man, he connects physically first and then emotionally.

Next week I will be talking about fiscal irresponsibility and how that can fracture your relationship. Accountability is key to keeping a marriage safe and secure.

Do you feel frustrated about your failing marriage or relationship? Do you need help in saving your marriage and family from divorce? Do you have a spouse or partner who isn’t communicating with you and you want it restored? Do you want help in learning good communication skills? Are you the partner who wants to end your relationship because it’s unhealthy? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need help.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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The Seven Sins of Marital Discourse (4) By Dr. Michael Brooks

The Seven Sins of Marital Discourse (4) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Number three on my list of Seven Sins of Marital Discourse is Lack of listening. This plays into my third problem with today’s marriages, the lack of listening to your spouse as they talk with you. Just like Ricky Ricardo in I love Lucy, he ignored her and kept reading the newspaper. A good listener will listen and then respond; a poor listener will not listen but think of ways to respond and not hear what is being said. If you’re the one who wants to set up a talk and make sure your spouse is listening, then have a plan. Don’t overload your spouse at one time with a heavy talk. Break down what you want to talk about in sections. Have specific questions and go over a few of them at a time. Get the input that you need and move on to your other questions. The key here is to know when to stop and listen and then move on.

Learn how to read the person that you’re talking to, know their body language and watch their eyes. They will tell you a lot. If you’re talking to someone and they seem to be reading a script, while looking up in space, they’re not listening to you, all they are doing is trying to figure out what they want to say. These kind of people are very poor at listening and communicating. If someone that you’re talking to has their arms folded and they are rocking side to side as they stand or shaking their foot while sitting, they have tuned you out. Ask them if they are done listening. If they say yes, then no more talking, and end the conversation.

Next week I’ll talk about the lack of intimacy and how it creates big problems in the marriage. Some people need physical touch to feel loved.

Do you feel frustrated about your failing marriage or relationship? Do you need help in saving your marriage and family from divorce? Do you have a spouse or partner who isn’t communicating with you and you want it restored? Do you want help in learning good communication skills? Are you the partner who wants to end your relationship because it’s unhealthy? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need help.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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The Seven Sins of Marital Discourse (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

The Seven Sins of Marital Discourse (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

By most standards, a marriage that has poor communication will eventually die on the vine. I believe that communication is the number one marriage killer. Without it, your marriage will never grow.

Learn to talk with each other, avoiding hard to talk isssues in your marriage can destroy it.

Number two on my list of Seven Sins of Marital Discourse is lack of communication. The key to a successful marriage is the ability to communicate with each other. Yes, Sometimes it can be very difficult to talk to each other. I think the lack of communication can be very damaging in a marriage. I see it more often than not, yet it still is a big problem in today’s relationships. Instead of talking with each other, younger couples feel that texting is the new norm in communicating with each other. Learn the value of face to face communication. It’s wonderful and helps in seeing how your spouse reacts to what you say. In a text, you’re not sure what the text communicates, some people will take what you said the wrong way, and they get upset. I have had numerous couples share this in our counseling sessions. Keep texting with your spouse to a minimum, and focus on actually talking face to face. Communication comes in many forms, and if you know how to read people as you talk, you will be a much better communicator. For example, if your spouse is having a difficult time in expressing their feelings with you and you know how to read that they are frustrated in sharing, a good communicator will be able to read into what they are saying and ask questions to clear up any confusion. Remember that men and women communicate on different levels, women, for the most part, are very detailed and can express their needs, wants and desires very well. Whereas men, on the other hand, use fewer words and that their spouses (tongue in cheek) and figure that their spouse’s can read their minds and know what a man’s needs are. Again, ladies, this is the way some men think. I have had several of these kinds of guys in my office. They don’t communicate very well, and some even admit it without the prompting of their wives during a coaching or counseling session.

I’m sure you have seen in some TV shows, and the example I use is the “I Love Lucy” show. Lucy walks into the kitchen and Ricky is at the breakfast table reading the paper. Lucy asks Ricky a question and for each question he asks, he always responds without taking his eyes off the paper says “yes, dear.” It drove her nuts; she knew he wasn’t listening. In today’s modern world that very scenario can be played out when spouses are glued to their cell phones. You can see it in any restaurant; no one is talking to each other. Couples that are going out to dinner rarely talk with each another, there staring at their cell phones all the time. This is a big problem with younger couples, just observe people eating a restaurant, it will amaze you what you see.

Are you a good listener, do you pay attention to what your spouse is saying or what’s on their mind, well, next week I will share my thoughts on that and how to improve your communication skills.

Do you feel frustrated about your failing marriage or relationship? Do you need help in saving your marriage and family from divorce? Do you have a spouse or partner who isn’t communicating with you and you want it restored? Do you want help in learning good communication skills? Are you the partner who wants to end your relationship because it’s unhealthy? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need help.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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The Seven Sins of Marital Discourse (2) By Dr. Michael Brooks

The Seven Sins of Martial Discourse (2) By Dr. Michael Brooks

So, here we go, read and see if you’re struggling with number one on my list of discourse. Number one on my list of Seven Sins of Marital Discourse is, don’t make assumptions about your spouse and go with your feelings, yes your feelings are important but so is your spouses. But feelings can be dead wrong and create unwanted anger. I recommend that you sit down and listen to each other’s thoughts and in a civil manner talk about them. Get the facts before fighting. If you think about it, how can you present your issues while yelling, screaming, and being belligerent to your partner? All this does is create a hostile environment, and nothing will get accomplished or settled. Have your list and talk about each one, be detailed and present your points logically. Don’t raise your voice and get up and walk away when your spouse doesn’t understand or agree with what you’re saying. Be specific and listen well to the feedback that you receive from your spouse. Don’t jump to conclusions and think logically to what you are hearing and understanding.

I had a couple that I was working with and both were miles apart on how to raise their children. The husband growing up had a mom and dad that yelled at his brothers and sister. The wife, on the other hand, had parents who sat the kids down and calmly talked things out. You can imagine that neither parent was going change the way the dealt with their own kids and this caused some big-time issues in their marriage. I suggested that they sit down and plan on how they would talk to the kids. This was agreed upon in my office, but was it followed at home? Both reverted to using the styles they learned growing up. They assumed that the other would be in agreement with the style they grew up with. The wife thought the husband would use her way and not his. So make no assumptions and talk things over before agreeing to move forward with your plans.

Next week I will be talking about poor communication and how that can be a problem in your marriage.

Do you feel frustrated about your failing marriage or relationship? Do you need help in saving your marriage and family from divorce? Do you have a spouse or partner who isn’t communicating with you and you want it restored? Do you want help in learning good communication skills? Are you the partner who wants to end your relationship because it’s unhealthy? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need help.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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The Seven Sins of Marital Discourse (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks

The Seven Sins of Martial Discourse (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks

I’ve often wondered why couples seem to have the same problems crop up in their marriages, year after year? I think once you’ve have discovered your problems in your marriage, you should just sit down, look at each other in the eyes and talk and find a solution to resolve your conflict. Well, not so fast my friend, this sounds easy, but that’s not the way this story ends, it’s just the beginning.

I often see or talk with couples who seem to agree to fix a problem and that it needs to be addressed or at least figured out what your next steps should be.

All couples disagree at one time or another; it’s a part of being married. I don’t know of a couple that hasn’t argued. It’s just how you handle your disagreements. Your arguments can be brutal, or a sit-down talk and walk through a plan on how to resolve what the issue is without the fighting. The next several weeks we will be going over the martial discourse issues in a bad marriage. If at any time you need to talk, please feel free to give me a call. If you want to save the marriage and need guidance in what you need to do, I can help you. If you have any questions, please feel free to give me a call. Our first topic of discussion next week, will be making assumptions in your marriage. How those can be deal breakers!

Do you feel frustrated about your failing marriage or relationship? Do you need help in saving your marriage and family from divorce? Do you have a spouse or partner who isn’t communicating with you and you want it restored? Do you want help in learning good communication skills? Are you the partner who wants to end your relationship because it’s unhealthy? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need help.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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dear excuses, PREPARE TO DIE (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

dear excuses, PREPARE TO DIE (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Continuing from last weeks article. Another issue that I had to face was “what I didn’t know” about operating a fitness center. I kept thinking “what if I fail, I would be horrified and what would the community, my friends and family, think of me? Just the thought of this fitness center was taking me way out of my comfort zone; I like to know what’s in front of me. I have to be honest I was scared of the what if’s and not focused on the “I can do this.” The only way to overcome this is to do your research and plan well ahead.

Make a well thought out business plan or a life plan. Prepare next steps and stick to them!

 What if it doesn’t work out, I asked myself? I already had pre-planned excuses just in case my plans failed. I was vacillating on success and my failure. You can’t go into trying something new and expect to succeed with that kind of mindset. Use the skills you already know and use them to live your dream and make it happen. No more excuses! If your plan doesn’t work, that’s OK. You will learn from your experience and become more confident in your next steps. Failure isn’t always bad for you. It creates a foundation for your next steps.

When I was in the planning stages of my Fitness Center, I wondered if my plans would work out. I faced the reality of failure in my own eyes, but that also hindered positive thinking. Some days I would dwell on failure and other days would think about my potential business success. It was all so confusing. I lost a lot of sleep during the planning stages. Many times I argued with myself about how this fitness center would fail. I made every excuse why it would. Honestly, I didn’t believe it was going to work out. So, I made excuses for why it would fail.

My thought was this; this is how I am, I’m not going to change whatsoever. I had to get past that kind thinking in order to move forward with my plans. The way I look at things is to stop making excuses and make a plan for your success.

I beat myself up over this fitness center business that I wanted to have. It didn’t work out the first time, but three years later, I ended up being a part owner of a fitness center that was very successful. My hard work did pay off down the road. I stopped making excuses and rolled up my sleeves and used the wealth of head knowledge I acquired during my initial phase to build a booming fitness center…

Do you feel frustrated about your failing marriage or relationship? Do you need help in saving your marriage and family from divorce? Do you have a spouse or partner who isn’t communicating with you and you want it restored? Do you want help in learning good communication skills? Are you the partner who wants to end your relationship because it’s unhealthy? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need help.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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dear excuses, PREPARE TO DIE (2) By Dr. Michael Brooks

dear excuses, PREPARE TO DIE (2)

By Dr. Michael Brooks

I often wonder why people are so afraid to make life-changing choices. When they think about it, they make excuses for why they can’t! To make changes, it takes a plan, and with the plan, it takes courage, commitment and resolve to make things happen. If you want to be miserable the rest of your life and look back saying, should have, could have, would have, in order to be a success with your life, and you don’t, whose fault is that?

Stop making excuses, people are tired of it!

What excuses will you look back at and kick your self for using them? So what excuses do you often use to get out of having your dreams and visions come to life? Well, here are a few that you may use and if you do, STOP using them.

  • I don’t have the time to do it
  • I don’t have the money
  • I have other important things to do
  • I’ll start next year on planning it
  • I can’t rush into it
  • Stop asking, it’ll happen when I’m ready

I had a client who wanted to start an ATV repair shop. We talked, and I kept hearing how he didn’t have the money to start a mom and pop shop. I asked him if he had planned in advance the funds that he needed and the timeframe of when this new adventure would take place. “No, I didn’t plan a timeline when this would happen. I want to get the shop up and running this year,” he said. Have you looked into renting a vacant building or using your garage at the house? He thought about having a shop in his garage. Now, this guy was an amazing ATV mechanic and would do well anywhere he set up shop. So, I went through what I thought he would need to get a business going. He agreed and liked my idea’s, but immediately went to the mindset, “I don’t have the money!” He never started that business, and to this day kicks himself for not planning or talking to a bank to get a loan, he works for someone else and can’t stand his boss.

If money is holding you back, talk to someone who can help you get a bank loan or how to save your money to start a business. Money should not hold you back, you may have to start small, and you may have to save your money for a while, but believe in your dreams.

Another excuse is, it takes too much work, and I’m not ready to move forward on my plans. People get some great idea’s and refuse to do the work to make it happen. Plans take energy and time and lots of it. I remember as a thirty-year-old how bad I wanted to open a fitness center back in Wisconsin. My town was pretty small about 16,000 people. I had the experience of running a fitness center and the drive to make it happen. I didn’t realize the amount of work required for owning and operating one, the paperwork to get it started was mind-blowing, and for a while, I was getting all the necessary paperwork required. I was losing steam, and tired of talking to the county, state and local powers that be. The fun part was planning the equipment I wanted to order, the kind of trainers that I wanted to hire, all that was fun to me. The other not so much. I had to admit it wasn’t the time to make this happen. So, I simply admitted that this was way to much work for me.

Next week, I will be sharing with you how to deal with making excuses for your failures. I share my insights and how I overcame the excuses I made.

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