The Fastest Way to End Your Marriage (4) By Dr Michael Brooks
Putting others and friends ahead of your spouse is a deal-breaker. Believe it not, this is a big problem today. Many marriage partners have brothers and sisters who rate more than their spouse does. I have seen it with many of my clients, and I have done it as well, without knowing it. In my younger years, I grew up with really close friends and neglected those I’ve dated. I thought she get over it, and she didn’t. We didn’t last very long in that relationship. Many husband’s and wives’ have this to deal with within a close family or friends they grew up with. Keep your spouse number one in your life, do not put anyone ahead of him or her. Many husbands and wives feel abandoned and left out, that is a hopeless feeling for your partner. Sometimes you marry into a close nit family, and there is a close bonding between parents and siblings. Just make sure that your spouse is included in some of the activities you do with family and friends.
The lack of emotional intimacy is another one on the list of reasons for divorce, how many of us crave a great sit-down talk with no interruptions and talk about anything that comes to mind? I love those kinds of talks. This, my friend, creates a wonderful bond of emotional intimacy. If a relationship is based on physical intimacy, it will wear off, emotional is where the connection is at. Getting into someone’s mind and learning about how they think and feel, is fuel for the soul. That will generate a lasting love and it goes along with great forms of communication. It binds the couple like no other way. Have you longed to ask your spouse how they feel about your relationship and how to make it stronger? Maybe you want to ask them how they feel about growing older with you. I bet there are a lot of questions you like to ask and get to know your spouse at a deeper level. Well, the only way to do that is at the emotional intimacy level, not always in the bedroom. Set up a time to talk at a deeper level, maybe outside by a lake, or on a walk. How about by the fireplace with your favorite wine or coffee? Just set the place and time and enjoy your spending time together! Try it, you’ll be happy you did!
If you don’t have date nights and spend time by yourself, this is not a good way to build and grow your marriage. Plan some fun dates, surprise your spouse with an evening they will remember for a long time. Spending time by yourself on a routine basis shows that there is no connection between you and your spouse. This will only cause your spouse to think you don’t want to spend any time with them. Try to call ahead and let them know your thinking of them and you want to take them out on a date. I’m sure they’d love it. Maybe you have to be the one to make this happen, it’s not really that hard, just do it. Next week we will be covering the areas that cause divorces in an unhealthy relationship.
Do you feel frustrated about your failing marriage or relationship and need help in getting back on track? Do you need help in saving your marriage and family from divorce? Do you have a spouse who isn’t communicating with you and you want to communicate at a deeper level? Do you want help in learning how to bring excitement in your marriage? Are you wanting to end your relationship because it’s unhealthy or not improving? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need to talk.
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