Show me That You Love Me! (2) By Dr Michael Brooks
This week, I want to go over words of affirmation and how important your words can be for building up your spouse. Our marriages should be built on being positive and building up our spouses’ self-esteem and helping them to see the positive that they bring into a marriage.
You may ask, ok, I agree with you Dr. Mike, but what do I need to do to figure out what their love language is? That’s a great question. You can buy the book on Amazon or go to Walmart. There are plenty of places where you can get the book. There is a short test in the back of the book that’ll help you figure out, what their love languages are!
Let’s look at the first love language listed. Words of Affirmation, those words would be words that help build someone up. Kind words, appreciative words. Growing up, as a kid my number one love language was words of Affirmation. I would seek approval from my mom by the things I did around the house. I would clean my room thoroughly as a 13-year-old kid. I’d dust, vacuum, have everything in its place, bed made. I’d ask my mom to come into my room to look at how clean my room was. She’d walk in, look around the room and say, “that’s nice” and walk out of bedroom room. Never really recognizing my efforts for my clean room, nor the time I put in making it look nice. Words of Affirmation are really important to me. I’d get coaches that would tell me how good I was in sports in high school and college, but nothing from my parents. I was always trying to get recognition from my dad for cutting the grass, cleaning out the garage, but never heard the words I longed for, “Good job Mike, it looks great!” I was never asked to do any of the outside chores, I just did them.
If you are someone whose primary love language is words of affirmation and are not getting that in your relationship, then you need to let your spouse know that you need to hear words of appreciation for what you do. If you notice the things that are done for you, then let your spouse know how much you appreciate them. Trust me, that complement, or words of affirmation will go a long way, and be sincere when you tell them. You want to make their day? Just share how much you like and appreciate what they’ve done for you. Words are important.
Would you like to build a better marriage and don’t know how? Do you want help in knowing how to be a better communicator and help your marriage grow? Do you need help in mastering the 5 Love languages and how applying them will help you build a stronger relationship? Do you need help in figuring out what your Five love languages are? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need to talk.
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