Show me That You Love Me! (5) By Dr. Michael Brooks
This week, I want to go over acts of service, how important are acts of service for building up your spouse. Our marriages are built on being positive and building up our spouses’ self-esteem. Doing things for our spouse without asking is a great way to show your spouse how much you love them.
Our next love language is Acts of Service, that means doing something for your spouse, or they do something for you, without being asked. I have a friend who will make his wife coffee every morning without ever being asked. He doesn’t drink coffee but loves doing this for his wife. She thinks it’s great and feels closer to her husband because of this kind act. I believe this is a love language that most women would say they’d score high on. They love it when their husbands do something for them without being asked. I know husbands that will help clean the house, do the laundry, do grocery shopping, or take the kids to the park and play with them while his wife gets time for herself. You can start by asking your spouse, what is something I can do for you? Have them make a list of ten things that you can do for them over the next several weeks, and plan to make it happen. Here are some suggestions you may want to try for acts of service.
- Does your spouse have outside chores that you can do, like cutting the grass, weed whacking, hauling trash to the curb?
- What meals does your spouse like and hasn’t had it in some time?
- Are there errands that you can do for your spouse that help lessen the load?
- Can you fill their gas tank knowing that it’d save them time refuelling the car or truck?
- Is there a favorite dessert you can pick up at the grocery store they’d like to have?
What are the acts of service that you can do for your spouse now? Think about the things they love and how you can surprise them by doing something they never expected. It’s amazing how the other reacts in total surprise. I know a lady whose husband worked 60 hours a week, he was exhausted when he came home most evenings. She decided to get a babysitter, make his favorite meal and take him to a movie. He loved it and never expected a relaxed time with his wife. That was very thoughtful and went a long way. Those kinds of acts of service aren’t difficult to put together, you just have to creative and make things happen. You need to plan ahead and set your plan in motion.
I watched my dad take care of my mom who had cancer, he made her breakfast, lunch and dinner, took her to all her Dr’s appointments, did the laundry, cleaned the house. He was a great role model for doing acts of service.
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