Winning Combination For a Great marriage (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks
Have you ever watched a couple that had a wonderful marriage, then thought about yours? They hold hands when walking; they laugh and smile when they’re together. Their marriage seems so inspiring, and you think, I’d like a marriage like that too!
I have seen these marriages and observed what their secret is. I watched many of these couples over the years while growing up. My dad was in the military, and I saw my parents having a so, so marriage. As a kid living on army bases, I saw several military couples happy with each other and their kids. Life seemed so stress-free, and if I was lucky, they always included me as if I was one of their own. I wasn’t even their kid, but I felt that I was a part of their family in a weird way.
As a kid, I grew up in a very dysfunctional home. My parents were never there for me or my brothers or sister. They were both heavy drinkers, and my dad could be pretty harsh when we got punished with a belt. Nowadays, it would be considered physical abuse, I’m sure.
The only time our family spent time together was around the dinner table. We talked openly and respectful of each other. I have only seen my parents argue once with each other, and I have to say, it scared me listening to them. There was little communication that I ever saw between them.
As a kid, some of the things I noticed with several of these couples was that they spent a lot of time together. This one particular couple I knew and liked, would go on walks together, so they would go to the park and enjoy spending time on nature trails. Note to self, If your spouse likes to do certain activities, then, by all means, make it happen. If they like concerts, surprise them with tickets. If they like sporting events, plan a day at their favorite team’s park or stadium. Planning a special event or day really shows that you love your spouse.
I love it when I see couples engaged in deep conversation, they are looking at each other, paying attention to what they are saying to each other. Meaningful talks really help a relationship grow. I suggest that you talk about things that matter to you. For example, talk about your plans as a married couple, what does the next year, 3-year and 5-year plan look like to both of you? You should talk about your investments, planned vacations, who needs your help and who you’d like to volunteer your time with? Open communication is so healthy for a growing and vibrant relationship.
Next week’s article will have some great suggestions that you may want to try to build a stronger marriage through better communication.
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