Living in Fear (3) By Dr. Michael Brooks
This week, we will start addressing ways to deal with your fears. Give this some thought as you write down your fears. So, I would like to give you some homework. List all your fears that you struggle with. Sit down with a pen and paper and start making that list. Once you’ve done that, then prioritize your list. Number #1 is the highest on your list, then go on to numbers 2, 3, 4. 5, and so on.
After you have decided what number #1 is, then list the reasons why you fear that particular issue. Write down all the reasons and take your time in doing this. The more information you can provide, the better in dealing with your specific fear. What are the pros and cons of this fear? How has it hindered you in the way you live or deal with people? Once you see the cons of your fears, then you will start looking at the ways to deal with it. It certainly will open the doors to your healing and moving on past the fears you struggle with.
What is considered a good and healthy fear? There are many of these when you consider the good reasons for fear. When a mother or dad scold a child getting too near a hot burner on the stove, yes, that’s a healthy fear. When the child actually touches the hot burner for themselves and learns not to do that even after the warning from a parent, you can bet that child probably will not touch that burner ever again.
What is considered a bad and unhealthy fear? Any fear that prevents you from living your life. Fears that keep you away from people, places, and situations. Maybe someone who loves and cares about you may say something to you about your avoidance of people or places. People can see through us when we are fearful and don’t deal with the fears that cripple us. They can see how we react to our fears and how our fears control us. There are some legitimate fears people face, the fear of flying, the fear of needles, the fear of the dentist. I have, in some ways, had a fear of these things in the past, but overcame them because of necessity. I had to get a root canal, oh, yes, you and I have heard how painful they were and how the tears would roll down your cheeks during the procedure, and afterward, the pain would keep you up all night! I didn’t care what I heard, my tooth was killing me, and I didn’t want to deal with the pain any longer. With great trepidation, I called and made an appointment with the dentist. As I sat in the dentist’s chair, I explained to him my great fear of needles, and of a bad experience as a kid with an army dentist. He assured me that I wouldn’t feel much of the needle, and honestly, I didn’t. The procedure went smoothly and was over with before I knew it. Let’s face it, I was forced to deal with my fear of needles and dentists “Jonny” on the spot! Now, I honestly don’t stress over seeing the dentist or getting shots. This could have been a real health crisis if I didn’t make that call. Bad teeth can be an issue for the heart. So, if your fears keep you from seeking medical attention, then that’s not good. Deal with the problem, get help, and get peace!
In next week’s article, I’ll have some suggestions on how I dealt with my own fears and how I moved on to live a life without the fears that were holding me back. I’ll provide some valuable tips that you can use in dealing with your fears!
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