Getting Away from It All (2) By Dr. Michael Brooks
This week we will be talking about boundaries and how to use them. See if any of these complaints sound like the ones you have struggled with!
I was looking back and thought that’d I share some of the complaints from clients whose spouse brought home their work, see if any of these resonate with you.
- Please leave your work at the office; we hardly spend any time together
- All you do is stay in the office downstairs; you hardly see the kids or me
- What’s more important, your work that you bring home or the kids and I?
- We had dinner planned with our friends tonight, are you kidding me that your boss wants you to work from home tonight? This dinner has been planned for over a month.
- Your children don’t ever get to spend time with you, why? Because you’re always doing your work at home
- You’re always on the cell phone with your boss when we go out for dinner, can’t you turn that *#%^!! Cell phone off?
For those of you who are married to your job, I want to give you a word of advice. STOP, repeat STOP, stop bringing your work home and start to become the spouse and parent that your family needs you to be. There is no job worth sacrificing your family for. Leave work at work and let your bosses know that your family needs you and that you need them and that you’re no longer on the clock once you leave the building. I understand that there are reasons why you will bring work home, I get that! I’m suggesting that you do your best not to bring your work home. Have boundaries with your work at home. Ask yourself is it necessary to bring work home? Can you complete your work the following day at your office? Can you plan far enough ahead to complete your work at your office? The one question I would like to ask you, would you be willing to set aside the weekends for your family and not your job? These are just a few suggestions that will help keep work at work and allow you to spend time with your family.
Sometimes as a tune-up, you may need to reconnect with the spouse and kids from time to time. Take some time away from work and spend time with your spouse. Get away for a few days and enjoy your time together, and without any work commitments. If you need to get a sitter or a family member to watch the kids while your away, set that up. Show your spouse that you want alone time with them.
Next week we will be covering the consequences of putting work ahead of your marriage and family. I will be sharing a sad story about a broken dinner date and the deadly story behind it.
Do you feel frustrated about your failing marriage or relationship? Do you need help in saving your marriage and family from divorce? Do you have a spouse or partner who isn’t communicating with you and you want it restored? Do you want help in learning good communication skills? Are you the partner who wants to end your relationship because it’s unhealthy? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need help.
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