FREE COVID-19 COACHING and COUNSELING SERVICES ON TUESDAY MARCH 24th, 12:00 to 3:30 PM

Posted on March 23, 2020 by drbrooks
FREE COACHING and COUNSELING SERVICES ON TUESDAY MARCH 24th, 12:00 to 3:30 PM
 
As a counselor, I know many of you are concerned about COVID-19 pandemic we are facing. You may have other things you’d like to talk about: a relationship, work, whatever, I’m here for you. I want to let you know everything is going to be OK. There is hope for you, and for all of us. If you need someone to talk to or just to listen, I will be available today Tuesday, March 24th from 12:00 MDT (Denver time zone) to 3:30 PM. Call 303.880.9878 to set up an appointment with Dr. Mike, or text me at this number and I’ll get back to you.
 
I ask that you limit our conversation to 20 minutes, in consideration for others that need to talk. This will be free and no charge to anyone who wants to talk, I want to give back to all of you as a part of my passion for helping others and my ministry in serving you. Message me to set up a time or respond on this post.
 
If you can please share this on your Facebook page or with your friends please do, many are struggling in silence and need someone to talk to.
 
Remember, we will get through this, I know it’s hard being isolated but we’re here for each other. Today’s challenge is to clean one room in the house that you’ve been neglecting to do. Enjoy re-organizing and putting things away, REMEMBER, NO COVID-19 talk with family or friends, focus on getting that room cleaned up!

Dr. Mike is here to help you with your concerns about COVID-19, call him!

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Is Coronavirus Driving Us Crazy? By Dr. Michael Brooks

Posted on March 14, 2020 by drbrooks
Is Coronavirus Driving Us Crazy? By Dr. Michael Brooks
 
OK, we’ve all seen the news that toilet paper is as rare as a sighting of Big Foot running around in the mountains of Colorado, right? I mean, people are actually fist fighting over TP. Can you imagine that! Where has the civility gone towards each other? People are fighting over paper towels, Kleenex, paper napkins, hand sanitizer, disinfectants, counter wipes.

Is Coronavirus causing fights among us?

I went to the store to get a prescription filled, and I took a walk around the store. Milk was gone, bread was gone, water was gone, meats were just about gone. The line for prescriptions was 25 deep. People are acting like the world is coming to an end. It’s not my friends, we will get through this, this soon will pass, and we will look back and wonder what all the fuss was about.
 
Y2K had the same crazy mentality as it does today. Remember when people said everything will shut down, computers will not function. People cancelled flights, thinking that the jet that they were on would fall from the sky. That our food and water distribution centers would run out of food and water. That the power grids would fail, and many people bought generators that are still in unopened boxes today sitting in their garages. This is the media hype that they are putting on all of us. Why? It makes up for a slow news day, week and month.
 
If you take precautions that the Medical experts are telling us to do, for the most part you will be safe. Wash your hands, this is nothing new, we were told to do that from our parents as far back as we can remember when we were kids. Cover your mouth when you cough, sneeze into the bent elbow. Avoid sick people, use hand sanitizer when you can.
 
Most importantly, if you feel ill, stay home. Or call your doctor and get checked out. There is no vaccine for this COVID-19 virus. Stay at home and rest, this is all you can do for now. If you have some serious issues, having a hard time to breath, or coughing spells, fever, then by all means go get checked out at a hospital or at your Dr’s office.
 
The world is not coming to an end, plan accordingly and spend some time with your family. There will be no school for the kids or sports to watch on TV, no school programs, no little league, no soccer or church in some instances. Just think, you can spend time playing some board games together, eating dinners together. There is no reason you should be interrupted by all the busyness of life, since it’s been put on hold. It’s time to get to know your spouse, your kids, your family again. Talk, laugh enjoy each other’s presence now that you have time. If you have some home projects to do, well, guess what, you got the whole family to join and help you. Take advantage of this COVID-19 and use it to your advantage for reviving the life of your family or restoration of your marriage.
 
Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!
 
Please share this, let’s bring back helping each other instead of fighting one another.
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Show me That You Love Me! (6) By Dr Michael Brooks

Posted on March 11, 2020 by drbrooks

Show me That You Love Me! (6) By Dr Michael Brooks

This week, I want to talk about physical touch, and how that can be an important love language if your spouse loves to touch. Can a marriage be built-up by knowing the five love languages? Absolutely. If you learn about the five love languages and how they can apply to your spouse and actually use them, you will see your marriage grow stronger and your communication improves.

Physical touch is so important in growing a long-lasting relationship

I ask this question at my seminars and when seeing clients at my office, “Who loves holding hands?” And I’ll ask my readers, do you? I know physical touch is important to so many of you. I know many couples who connect while driving to do errands or road trips and they will hold hands. Physical touch comes in many forms, a kiss, a pat on the back, hand-holding, giving a massage, arm in arm, leaning on each other, hugs, and physical intimacy. If you think about it, young children love being hugged by their mothers, that’s the way moms and babies connect.

Looking back, probably your first experience of a love language was physical touch by holding hands, remember how thrilling was that? Touching is good for the soul and your spirit. Most of us love being touched by our spouse.

People have many ways they touch and not necessarily in a spousal relationship. When you greet someone, the handshake is the most common. The hug can be used to comfort someone who is hurting or a greeting, the slap on the back for celebrating after doing something in sports or a big accomplishment. There are many physical touches in that sense, that still show we care.

Growing up, I saw my parents show their love towards each other every day my dad came home from work; mom would greet him with a kiss and hug every time he walked through the door. We kids would run and greet my dad as well, it was the way we all connected and that was by group hugs.

Now physical touch in marriage, that is key to letting your spouse know that you love and care about them. There are some marriages where physical intimacy is not possible. Age, injuries, disease, emotional issues, etc. There are other ways these people show their love to each other. Words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, and quality time. You should sit down with your spouse and talk about the physical needs each of you has. I know this can be difficult maybe even embarrassing as well, but it should be done.

Physical touch brings couples together in many different ways, there is emotional touching as well, getting to know each other on the communication side helps build a solid marriage, and the actual physical touching to connect that way. Both are important in my humble opinion. When a spouse is hurting for some reason, the other usually can tell something is going on, a hug can be a lifesaver and healing too. The loss of a loved one, the loss of a job, whatever it may be, physical touch can start the healing process. Be aware of all levels of physical touch and how important they can be to your spouse.

In closing, the Five Love Languages can build up a hurting marriage, or a marriage on the rocks, you just have to apply the Five Love languages to your marriage and each other. There is no reason why a bad marriage with poor communication, can’t be healed. Contact me if you need help, I’m here for you!

Would you like to build a better marriage and don’t know how? Do you want help in knowing how to be a better communicator and help your marriage grow? Do you need help in mastering the 5 Love languages and how applying them will help you build a stronger relationship? Do you need help in figuring out what your Five love languages are? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need to talk.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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Show me That You Love Me! (5) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Posted on March 2, 2020 by drbrooks

Show me That You Love Me! (5) By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week, I want to go over acts of service, how important are acts of service for building up your spouse. Our marriages are built on being positive and building up our spouses’ self-esteem. Doing things for our spouse without asking is a great way to show your spouse how much you love them.

Our next love language is Acts of Service, that means doing something for your spouse, or they do something for you, without being asked. I have a friend who will make his wife coffee every morning without ever being asked. He doesn’t drink coffee but loves doing this for his wife. She thinks it’s great and feels closer to her husband because of this kind act. I believe this is a love language that most women would say they’d score high on. They love it when their husbands do something for them without being asked. I know husbands that will help clean the house, do the laundry, do grocery shopping, or take the kids to the park and play with them while his wife gets time for herself. You can start by asking your spouse, what is something I can do for you? Have them make a list of ten things that you can do for them over the next several weeks, and plan to make it happen. Here are some suggestions you may want to try for acts of service.

  • Does your spouse have outside chores that you can do, like cutting the grass, weed whacking, hauling trash to the curb?
  • What meals does your spouse like and hasn’t had it in some time?
  • Are there errands that you can do for your spouse that help lessen the load?
  • Can you fill their gas tank knowing that it’d save them time refuelling the car or truck?
  • Is there a favorite dessert you can pick up at the grocery store they’d like to have?

What are the acts of service that you can do for your spouse now? Think about the things they love and how you can surprise them by doing something they never expected. It’s amazing how the other reacts in total surprise. I know a lady whose husband worked 60 hours a week, he was exhausted when he came home most evenings. She decided to get a babysitter, make his favorite meal and take him to a movie. He loved it and never expected a relaxed time with his wife. That was very thoughtful and went a long way. Those kinds of acts of service aren’t difficult to put together, you just have to creative and make things happen. You need to plan ahead and set your plan in motion.

I watched my dad take care of my mom who had cancer, he made her breakfast, lunch and dinner, took her to all her Dr’s appointments, did the laundry, cleaned the house. He was a great role model for doing acts of service.

Would you like to build a better marriage and don’t know how? Do you want help in knowing how to be a better communicator and help your marriage grow? Do you need help in mastering the 5 Love languages and how applying them will help you build a stronger relationship? Do you need help in figuring out what your Five love languages are? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need to talk.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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Show me That You Love Me! (4) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Posted on February 25, 2020 by drbrooks

Show me That You Love Me! (4) By Dr. Michael Brooks

This week, I want to go over the love language of receiving gifts and how gifts can be used for building up your spouse, if  gifts is his/her love language? For some spouses, gifts are very important no matter what the gift is, or the cost.

My mom loved receiving gifts from my dad; He was good about little gift surprises that my mom loved. I can remember when he’d bring home flowers, cards, jewlery. He was away a lot because of the military and these small tokens of his love went a long way to make my mom very happy! When he came home from long tours of duty my sister and I would get something special as well, like a toy or games. I think he knew we’d like a gift as well.

Many of you like simple gifts, and we’re not talking about a corvette or a 5-carat diamond ring. I’m talking about simple gifts. Flowers, books, CD’s, clothes, homemade I love you cards for her or him. And for him/her, ATV’s, hunting or fishing gear, maybe a nice boat. I’m just kidding here, but for him, maybe something like a gift card, or maybe you know of something he’d really Like. Gifts don’t have to be expensive, but meaningful. For some people, the gift of you being in their presence is a gift they want and need.

If you think about some of the videos on Facebook where you see families being reunited when a son or daughter comes home on leave from the military. The parents are getting the gift of their child coming home, and trust me, I’ve seen enough of these family reunions in our own family. Tears of happiness and joy are so evident for the mom and dad. Gifts can come in all shapes and sizes. Which gift does your spouse like or do you like? This may not be a high priority for some people, but I bet some of the people in your life do like receiving gifts.

Would you like to build a better marriage and don’t know how? Do you want help in knowing how to be a better communicator and help your marriage grow? Do you need help in mastering the 5 Love languages, and how applying them will help you build a stronger relationship? Do you need help in figuring out what your Five love languages are? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need to talk.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike, send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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Show me That You Love Me! (3) By Dr Michael Brooks

Posted on February 17, 2020 by drbrooks

Show me That You Love Me! (3) By Dr Michael Brooks

This week, I want to go over spending quality time together and how important that is to your spouse. Marriages are also built on doing things together which helps create a positive and healthy marriage.

How important do you think spending quality time together is? Do you like hanging out with your spouse on the weekends, do you enjoy walks and talking together? Quality time is the time you spend together, just the two of you. I like to suggest this time is where you’re not watching TV or reading a book. It’s time where you can talk and listen to each other. That’s where you connect on a deeper level with each other. It can be going on a long drive in the country or an art museum, a ball game, as long as you are talking with each other and having a good time.

I have a friend who loves to ATV, and his wife loves it too. They enjoy riding trails together, exploring new places to ride. She makes a great lunch, and they take a break and have lunch together. Sometimes they fish, go on hikes, work on their house together. It’s a strong and healthy marriage. Why? Because they are together enjoying the time they have as a couple I had one couple I was working with the wife would be glued to the TV when he got home from work, that’s where she was planted all evening. He wanted to spend time with her talking and she was wanting uninterrupted time in front of the TV.

This marriage was in trouble from the get-go. So, what is Quality time to you? Is it just being in the same room and not talking to each other? Is it something you desire and don’t have with your spouse? Are you desiring time with your spouse and want their attention? A good test for you to see who is getting quality time, is go out to a restaurant and watch couples sitting at a table, I do this all the time and watch them interact. I can Guess who is dating and guess who is married, and how I can you tell them apart? Most likely the married couples will be looking at their phones and texting, and the dating couple will be looking at each other and talking! Do me a favor, make a list of things you’d like to do with your spouse, have them make a list as well. Here are some of my tips for having quality time together:

  • Take some time to walk at your local park, talk with each other, go arm in arm. Share your thoughts but talk and spend some time enjoying each other’s company.
  • Take her on a surprise weekend get-away, call and make reservations at a hotel, plan dinner at a nice restaurant, but get away from home.
  • Plan a day on the road, take a road trip to their favorite place, bring a picnic lunch, create some great memories.
  • Meet your spouse for lunch during the week, a place where you both can meet near your work.

This quality time is all about your spouse, give them your undivided attention, show them that they are number one in your life!

Would you like to build a better marriage and don’t know how? Do you want help in knowing how to be a better communicator and help your marriage grow? Do you need help in mastering the 5 Love languages and how applying them will help you build a stronger relationship? Do you need help in figuring out what your Five love languages are? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need to talk.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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Show Me That You Love Me! (2) By Dr Michael Brooks

Posted on February 10, 2020 by drbrooks

Show me That You Love Me! (2) By Dr Michael Brooks

This week, I want to go over words of affirmation and how important your words can be for building up your spouse. Our marriages should be built on being positive and building up our spouses’ self-esteem and helping them to see the positive that they bring into a marriage.

You may ask, ok, I agree with you Dr. Mike, but what do I need to do to figure out what their love language is? That’s a great question. You can buy the book on Amazon or go to Walmart. There are plenty of places where you can get the book. There is a short test in the back of the book that’ll help you figure out, what their love languages are!

Words of affirmation are so important in keeping a healthy marriage vibrant and close.

Let’s look at the first love language listed. Words of Affirmation, those words would be words that help build someone up. Kind words, appreciative words. Growing up, as a kid my number one love language was words of Affirmation. I would seek approval from my mom by the things I did around the house. I would clean my room thoroughly as a 13-year-old kid. I’d dust, vacuum, have everything in its place, bed made. I’d ask my mom to come into my room to look at how clean my room was. She’d walk in, look around the room and say, “that’s nice” and walk out of bedroom room. Never really recognizing my efforts for my clean room, nor the time I put in making it look nice. Words of Affirmation are really important to me. I’d get coaches that would tell me how good I was in sports in high school and college, but nothing from my parents. I was always trying to get recognition from my dad for cutting the grass, cleaning out the garage, but never heard the words I longed for, “Good job Mike, it looks great!” I was never asked to do any of the outside chores, I just did them.

If you are someone whose primary love language is words of affirmation and are not getting that in your relationship, then you need to let your spouse know that you need to hear words of appreciation for what you do. If you notice the things that are done for you, then let your spouse know how much you appreciate them. Trust me, that complement, or words of affirmation will go a long way, and be sincere when you tell them. You want to make their day? Just share how much you like and appreciate what they’ve done for you. Words are important.

Would you like to build a better marriage and don’t know how? Do you want help in knowing how to be a better communicator and help your marriage grow? Do you need help in mastering the 5 Love languages and how applying them will help you build a stronger relationship? Do you need help in figuring out what your Five love languages are? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need to talk.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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Show me That You Love Me! (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Posted on February 3, 2020 by drbrooks

Show me That You Love Me! (1) By Dr. Michael Brooks

Many couples that I work with are in a loveless marriage, and it’s so sad to see. I’d have to say most individuals truly want to know that they are loved by their partner. If you have to ask your spouse if they love you, your relationship is in big trouble. We all want that feeling of being loved and appreciated by our spouse. I don’t think its all that hard to show someone that you really care and love them. Some children never saw that growing up in their homes they were raised in. So, what examples did they have growing up or they could relate to.

I love the book the “5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman, I use it in my practice all the time. It opens the doors to a healthy and enriched marriage. In my humble opinion, the biggest reason for most divorces is the lack of communication. It boils down to a couple’s ability to share and talk about the good times in their marriage or things that need to be worked on. If you can’t talk about the issues and you let them go unresolved, then troubles will soon be an issue.

I had a couple in my office who was struggling with the way they communicated.  He liked to hear details about her day, and she was just a matter of fact, “pretty boring day and not much to share.” She would say. Now mind you, some people love details, and some don’t care and never give it a second thought.

The Five love languages helps you communicate what your needs are and your spouse’s needs. The languages are pretty simple, words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. These languages are the foundations of having a better marriage. So, what are your top two languages do you think? Do you like to hear how much you are appreciated by your spouse? Do you like spending time with your partner doing fun things or just being alone together? Maybe, you like getting gifts from your spouse, no matter what they are? Do you like to do things for your spouse without being asked, or do you like having things done for you? Do you like to be touched, holding hands, snuggling, neck massages? This doesn’t always have to be in an intimate way.

These five love languages cover most of the ways you can show your spouse that you love them. It takes little effort to do any of these, it just takes your willingness to make it happen. We have to make time for our spouse, they have to be number one on your list, not your best friend, not your job, not your pet, not even your kids. Your spouse is your top priority.

Next week we will be looking at Words of affirmation, words that uplift and encourage your spouse.

Would you like to build a better marriage and don’t know how? Do you want help in knowing how to be a better communicator and help your marriage grow? Do you need help in mastering the 5 Love languages and how applying them will help you build a stronger relationship? Do you need help in figuring out what your Five love languages are? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need to talk.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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You Can’t Run Forever, Trust Me! (4) By Dr Michael Brooks

Posted on January 20, 2020 by drbrooks

You Can’t Run Forever, Trust Me! (4) By Dr Michael Brooks

This week, we will conclude the series on “You Can’t Run Forever, Trust me.” Many of you send me emails on what kind of articles you’d like me to write about and if you have some idea’s letting me know. Thank you for being faithful followers.

Deak with the issue at hand and don’t run away!

So, Dr Mike what if I go to the person I’ve hurt and have avoided for days, months or even years and they want nothing to do with me? My word of advice is this; at least you tried. That’s why I suggest, write a letter, email, or a phone call even better yet, is in person if at all possible. If the person is deceased, or you can’t locate them and you have tried all avenues in locating them (sincerely and honestly tried) then write them a long letter, after reading it, destroy it. I would consider the matter closed. You’ve done what you needed to do. It’s time for you to move on and live your life, no more running away or avoiding people.

You are not alone in running away from life’s problems, we all have done it, you, me, our family, and our friends. Just think how many wonderful things you’ve missed out on by avoiding the people we love, all kinds of events, maybe weddings, family gatherings like Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners, funerals, graduations. There is no reason for this. Make it happen, reconnect with those you love and admire.

I say the hardest part in making reconnections is the worry “what will they say and think of me.” I liken this to my feelings about shots or IV’s, many of you know, I hate needles with a passion. When going in for surgery, I don’t dread the surgery itself, and I am fearful of the IV I get to prep me for surgery. I get anxious for days ahead of my surgery date, just over an IV. That’s the same feeling many get before they meet with someone they have been running away from, the IV effect…

Now, there are some of you who want nothing to do with someone you are running away from, and there is a good reason for it. If you have been verbally, physically or sexually abused, then I get it and so do the rest of us. Then you need to stay away from those kinds of people. It’s best to just leave it alone. I don’t want you to stir up any trouble for yourself. Hopefully, you have gotten help from a counselor in dealing with those memories of your past.

I can think of several entertainers who have run away from abusive relationships, and Tina Turner is the one that sticks in my mind. She endured beatings, death threats, verbal abuse on stage and at home. She finally had enough and ran away. She had good reasons to run from this type of man.

Do you feel frustrated about running away from your past and want help in restoring a broken relationship? Do you want help in knowing how to let go of your past so you can get on with your life? Do you need help in setting up your auto-responders, so you don’t run from those situations that cause you embarrassment? Do you need help in understanding why you run from those who you fear? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need to talk.

Dr. Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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You Can’t Run Forever, Trust Me! (3) By Dr Michael Brooks

Posted on January 13, 2020 by drbrooks

You Can’t Run Forever, Trust Me! (3) By Dr Michael Brooks

This week, this article is loaded with tips that can help you find a way to deal with those people you avoid on purpose. There will be people and situations you find yourself in and you just want to run away and hide from those people. I think we’ve all been there at one time or another!

Running away from people who you need to face is not the right way to deal with the problem!

I loaned a friend of mine a wood splitter, and he said he needed it for the weekend. I waited for him to return it, he never called or would return my phone calls to him. After three weeks, I decided to stop by and pick it up, he wasn’t home and neither was my log splitter, that afternoon I saw him driving by at the grocery store, I waved at him, he turned his head to look away. He was avoiding me, I turned around and followed him home. His truck was in the driveway, but not my friend. I knocked on the door, and his wife answered and said that her husband wasn’t feeling well and was in bed. I told her I would wait outside and that we needed to talk. I figured that she must have told her husband that I was outside waiting for him and he’d better talk to me. He came out after several minutes and started to make excuses as to why he hadn’t returned my log splitter. I found out that he was renting it out to some of his friends. He and his wife needed some money as she was laid off from work. We talked and I said, “it would have been so much easier on both of us if he was upfront in needing money.” He agreed, I said, “avoiding me made things hard on both of us.” I let him use my log splitter to rent out and help them through a rough spot.

If you think about it, I’m sure he was embarrassed on several levels about the log splitter. Being vulnerable about sharing your financial woes to a friend can be hard, plus abusing someone’s trust in equipment they borrowed from you and then renting it out would be embarrassing in itself. It’s so much better just to be upfront and let people know you’re hurting and need their help. I think what made me angry was, he was avoiding me, and he was not returning my phone calls. Do you think I handled this matter in the right way?

Running away from people to avoid conflict is wrong in so, many ways. When you do that, you add by making matters worse for yourself and with the other person. That’s why I encourage you to deal with it right away, instead of letting it slide by. The sooner you deal with the feeling of running away the better, go to that individual and make things right. It’s the only way to give you peace of mind. Here are my tips for those of you who feel like running away and avoiding people and why doing that, will not solve your problems.

  • It is just a matter of time before the lies you’ve been telling yourself will catch up with you.
  • You cannot bury the truth, someone, someday, somehow, what you have done to hurt others will come to light.
  • Running away is not the answer; you can’t outrun your feelings with the heavy emotional baggage you carry.
  • Owning up to what is making you run and dealing with it, will give you the freedom of letting go.
  • Are you afraid of making things right and putting the pain you caused others behind you? Well, we all are when we go to the people to say we’re sorry and ask for forgiveness. Trust me on this!

Do you feel frustrated about running away from your past and want help in restoring a broken relationship? Do you want help in knowing how to let go of your past so you can get on with your life? Do you need help in setting up your auto-responders, so you don’t run from those situations that cause you embarrassment? Do you need help in understanding why you run from those who you fear? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to contact Dr. Mike and set up an appointment. Please call Dr. Mike at 303.880.9878. If you need to talk.

Michael Brooks is the founder of Applicable Counseling and life coaching Services. It is affordable, accessible, anonymous and available by appointment from the privacy of your home. To avoid travel time and the comfort of home, many clients prefer to meet with Dr. Mike over the phone or via Skype (if you want to Skype with Dr. Mike send him an email at mbrooks3353@gmail.com to set up an appointment). The convenience of this type of Counseling/Coaching is the most effective means of Life Coaching for those who live outside of Colorado. Give Dr. Mike a call! You’ll be glad you did!

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